I feel like I'm at a point in my life where I need to take on new challenges, but nothing seems to be presenting itself and otherwise I just don't know where to begin. I've been trying small things like opening an etsy store for cat shaped pillows... why??? While these cat pillows are cute, I don't see them bettering my life in any way. I feel like I need something much bigger that would change the course of my life forever. I'm thinking of moving. I've been in this general area my whole life. What would it be like to live somewhere else? I'm just so ready for something. Anything.
The thing I like about my relationship with Robert is that we are both very independent and are pretty good at co-existing. As for projects, when the time allows, we do a lot together. He's helped with with photo stories for heartbreaker and right now we're working on a showroom video as well. We've even done some art projects together.
From the little bits of information I know about you and your marriage, I like what you and your husband have. I actually would want to model my wedding after yours. Go to the court. have a party. Keep it simple. Robert and I have talked about future plans and feel pretty strongly about being together for a long time, I'm just a creature that needs constant reassurance. It's just sort of how I'm wired. I somehow think marriage will erase the insecurities since marriage is meant to be a symbol of commitment. I suppose when it's time, it's time and we'll both know and we'll agree and we will probably also go down to the court and tell everyone to come over for a party.
As for kids. The only thing I like about the idea of having a child is nurturing them to grow up and be awesome people in this world. I just think I would be a really great mother and an even better friend, and maybe one day I will be. I'll be 27 in April, but the thought of having children now (or even within the next year or two) just makes me cringe. And depending on where I'm living or what I'm doing, kids may not be a good idea.
I think a lot of people feel the way that you do, and it accounts for some trends: crazy elaborate wedding planning, crazy elaborate home reno/decor/design. Everyone wants something to do, something to feel fulfilled by. I know this probably offends some people, but I think that is why a lot of people choose to have kids. You go to school, get a job, get your life together...and....Then people start to wonder what is next.
Having kids is an easy way to fell fulfilled, like you are making a difference in the world. It is also a way to relate and make connections with others. This is not to say that I don't agree with what you said above, I also think I would like to nurture someone to grow up and be awesome and I would also be a good mother. I love love love kids. HOWEVER - I find it to be so, so frequent that a lot of really smart, driven women suddenly just MUST become stay-at-home mothers right when the career shit starts getting tougher (i.e. promotion competition/business expansion). I couldn't do that. I love my husband and I trust him, but I just couldn't hang my whole livelihood on another person.
I am not trying to offend any parents, I know that everyone's story and choices are unique, I am just stating what I have observed. I also don't think that getting married or having kids really changes anyone, you judgemental annoying friend just gets more so, and your relaxed calm friends tend to stay that way, too.
I think that you are healthier and smarter than most people in that you are even asking these questions of yourself and the world. Just being aware of that seeking and wanderlust and don't let it push you around or make you feel bad :)
Sorry about any spelling errors - long day at work.
Thank you for the comment about my wedding. From the little bits of information I know about you, I think you are really smart and unique and driven. I hope we can meet someday or travel together or cook up something else!
Actually, a while back I was trying to get your mailing address, but I think you were traveling. I was writing a set of letters to my pen pals and I thought of including you. I don't really know how to get in touch with you other than on Livejournal.
I've been trying small things like opening an etsy store for cat shaped pillows... why??? While these cat pillows are cute, I don't see them bettering my life in any way. I feel like I need something much bigger that would change the course of my life forever. I'm thinking of moving. I've been in this general area my whole life. What would it be like to live somewhere else? I'm just so ready for something. Anything.
The thing I like about my relationship with Robert is that we are both very independent and are pretty good at co-existing.
As for projects, when the time allows, we do a lot together. He's helped with with photo stories for heartbreaker and right now we're working on a showroom video as well. We've even done some art projects together.
From the little bits of information I know about you and your marriage, I like what you and your husband have. I actually would want to model my wedding after yours. Go to the court. have a party. Keep it simple. Robert and I have talked about future plans and feel pretty strongly about being together for a long time, I'm just a creature that needs constant reassurance. It's just sort of how I'm wired. I somehow think marriage will erase the insecurities since marriage is meant to be a symbol of commitment. I suppose when it's time, it's time and we'll both know and we'll agree and we will probably also go down to the court and tell everyone to come over for a party.
As for kids. The only thing I like about the idea of having a child is nurturing them to grow up and be awesome people in this world. I just think I would be a really great mother and an even better friend, and maybe one day I will be. I'll be 27 in April, but the thought of having children now (or even within the next year or two) just makes me cringe. And depending on where I'm living or what I'm doing, kids may not be a good idea.
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Having kids is an easy way to fell fulfilled, like you are making a difference in the world. It is also a way to relate and make connections with others. This is not to say that I don't agree with what you said above, I also think I would like to nurture someone to grow up and be awesome and I would also be a good mother. I love love love kids. HOWEVER - I find it to be so, so frequent that a lot of really smart, driven women suddenly just MUST become stay-at-home mothers right when the career shit starts getting tougher (i.e. promotion competition/business expansion). I couldn't do that. I love my husband and I trust him, but I just couldn't hang my whole livelihood on another person.
I am not trying to offend any parents, I know that everyone's story and choices are unique, I am just stating what I have observed. I also don't think that getting married or having kids really changes anyone, you judgemental annoying friend just gets more so, and your relaxed calm friends tend to stay that way, too.
I think that you are healthier and smarter than most people in that you are even asking these questions of yourself and the world. Just being aware of that seeking and wanderlust and don't let it push you around or make you feel bad :)
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Thank you for the comment about my wedding. From the little bits of information I know about you, I think you are really smart and unique and driven. I hope we can meet someday or travel together or cook up something else!
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