Dear K
OK, another to a "daughter" of mine. Bear with me.
Dear K:
You are a almost a year older since we began to seriously discuss if/how I could be in your life. You had matured in a lot of ways since we first shared our lives.
But today I see a lot of your mother in your choices.
And, because you are older, I am more prepared to put up a wall to you than I was a year ago.
You say that biology trumps all. If that is true, then I know what your biology will bring you. A father who killed a man. A mother who is mentally ill or worse. A grandmother who was terrorized by her husband (but who was the one stable person in your life).
I accept that decision.
I believe differently. Our lives are the result of choices we make. Whether we are children or adults.
And if your choice leads to the lifestyle I think it will, I will be sad. But I will not feel guilty or responsible. I did what I could in your life given your age and psychological history. My time has passed. I am at peace with that. I wish you wisdom and strength. I love you -- and always will. I cannot save you.
Randy
Dear K:
You are a almost a year older since we began to seriously discuss if/how I could be in your life. You had matured in a lot of ways since we first shared our lives.
But today I see a lot of your mother in your choices.
And, because you are older, I am more prepared to put up a wall to you than I was a year ago.
You say that biology trumps all. If that is true, then I know what your biology will bring you. A father who killed a man. A mother who is mentally ill or worse. A grandmother who was terrorized by her husband (but who was the one stable person in your life).
I accept that decision.
I believe differently. Our lives are the result of choices we make. Whether we are children or adults.
And if your choice leads to the lifestyle I think it will, I will be sad. But I will not feel guilty or responsible. I did what I could in your life given your age and psychological history. My time has passed. I am at peace with that. I wish you wisdom and strength. I love you -- and always will. I cannot save you.
Randy