from tartenshell, for tartenshell.

[roguewords]

I just...

there are no words for this.

CHILDREN ARE NOT BAD!!!!!!!

They are active, they need guidance, but my goddess, they are LEARNING how to behave. They can't learn that if they aren't shown. Children learn by example.

And someone who is depressed???????

They need help, not a fucking boot camp.

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*feels sick*

Taken from the ISAC

Comments

[ashleyfanfic]

I'm going to say this and I hope it doesn't offend.

I agree, children need guidance. They need a hand to show them the right way. However, most parents now try to be friends with their children. A child has a lot of friends, they need PARENTS. They need rules, they need guidelines and they need rational punishments for what they've done.

I come from a family that spanked. While a lot of people are against this, I think it helped more than anythinge. If you, as a child, are told first why it's happening, I think that makes a difference. There is a difference between spanking and beating. I don't believe in beating a child. I think anyone that does should be sent to prison where they belong. However, I don't think popping a child on the bottom for throwing a cup and hitting you in the head (on purpose) is a big problem. It establishes a relationship between the parent and the child. To some extent, the child has to fear the parent. If they don't, then they'll have no fear of anything every happening to them should they do something wrong.

My brothers are far from perfect. However, they know that at anytime that should they get too out of line, Mom and Dad won't hesitate from putting them in their place (and they're in their twenties).

ALL THAT SAID --

I think that parents resorting to these centers is a cowardly on their part. They don't want to look like the bad guy or are incapable of handing out discipline that they send them to these people. It's time that parents take back the control over their children. There is nothing wrong with rules, there is nothing wrong with setting boundaries and enforcing them, but to send your child to people who are supposed to discipline them and don't love them is a tragedy. That child will resent it's parents in the long run for not standing up and taking control.

Sorry -- didn't mean to go into all of this.

[roguewords]

Oh absolutely not. I agree with you!

My parents spanked us. I think in moderation that it's a perfectly acceptable form of punishment. But you are right, you have to tell the child why you're doing it. Explain what the behavior was that they did wrong and how to correct it. And pop their butts.

My mother said pretty much the same thing -- they want someone else to be the parent.