On Cons and Relationships
It's been a minute, eh?
A thought came to mind, yesterday. I've been single ever since my last relationship unceremoniously ended in mid 2017. In that time, I've been to more conventions that I ever did during the nearly 5 and a half years that I was in a serious relationship. At just about every con, I always have two moments/moods than I experience without failure. The first is incredible hopefulness. The second is the conclusion of the first, a moment of deep loneliness. These are usually spread apart by a day or two. Perhaps, this is a normal reaction that coincides with the beginning and ending of a con. That being said, I'm left with the thought that I mentioned earlier:
"Would being in a relationship answer or quell that moment of loneliness? If so, would it really make the experience of the convention any better?"
I ask this because I did attend different conventions while in my last relationship. Did I experience a deeper enjoyment because of being with someone? Somewhat. This is a complicated "yes" because of the dynamics of that relationship.
The most vivid memory is the first convention after we became official. It was magical for many different reasons. We just got together and it was something new for both of us in different respects. Another memory that stands out was our first "ball" at AWA. The entire experience was like prom, only better. This time, it was with someone whom I loved. It was perfect, but it wasn't without its road bumps. That's what leads me into my "con" of the whole debate.
Those experiences were great, but they were also met with some strife. Without going into deep detail, we had our issues. Every convention, she would have her emotional breakdown for various reasons. She usually attributed this to her BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). There was always a snag that hindered the weekend from being close to perfect. These would range from minor hindrances to, unfortunately, what would lead to the demise of our relationship when she developed feelings for a minor...
I know, I would be immensely dense to compare these experiences to being in a relationship with anyone else. That would, in fact, make me rather one-dimensional. But the general thought is, "there's going to be a snag of some degree." I say this in a realistic sense, because nothing ever goes as you envision it in your head. This can be a good thing! If everything in life is predictable, then there is no mystery in life. Thus, I should really embrace the possibility of having a less than perfect weekend.
In conclusion, I suppose being in a relationship and attending a convention can be a wonderful thing, but it shouldn't be what makes attending a con fun. Just going in itself is the funnest part. Being in a relationship should compliment the experience. Happiness does come from within, after all. So, if I can keep all of this in mind, then I think my little one-day attendance to the local anime convention tomorrow will be a great day.
"It'll be okay, follow your heart,"
Rogue
A thought came to mind, yesterday. I've been single ever since my last relationship unceremoniously ended in mid 2017. In that time, I've been to more conventions that I ever did during the nearly 5 and a half years that I was in a serious relationship. At just about every con, I always have two moments/moods than I experience without failure. The first is incredible hopefulness. The second is the conclusion of the first, a moment of deep loneliness. These are usually spread apart by a day or two. Perhaps, this is a normal reaction that coincides with the beginning and ending of a con. That being said, I'm left with the thought that I mentioned earlier:
"Would being in a relationship answer or quell that moment of loneliness? If so, would it really make the experience of the convention any better?"
I ask this because I did attend different conventions while in my last relationship. Did I experience a deeper enjoyment because of being with someone? Somewhat. This is a complicated "yes" because of the dynamics of that relationship.
The most vivid memory is the first convention after we became official. It was magical for many different reasons. We just got together and it was something new for both of us in different respects. Another memory that stands out was our first "ball" at AWA. The entire experience was like prom, only better. This time, it was with someone whom I loved. It was perfect, but it wasn't without its road bumps. That's what leads me into my "con" of the whole debate.
Those experiences were great, but they were also met with some strife. Without going into deep detail, we had our issues. Every convention, she would have her emotional breakdown for various reasons. She usually attributed this to her BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). There was always a snag that hindered the weekend from being close to perfect. These would range from minor hindrances to, unfortunately, what would lead to the demise of our relationship when she developed feelings for a minor...
I know, I would be immensely dense to compare these experiences to being in a relationship with anyone else. That would, in fact, make me rather one-dimensional. But the general thought is, "there's going to be a snag of some degree." I say this in a realistic sense, because nothing ever goes as you envision it in your head. This can be a good thing! If everything in life is predictable, then there is no mystery in life. Thus, I should really embrace the possibility of having a less than perfect weekend.
In conclusion, I suppose being in a relationship and attending a convention can be a wonderful thing, but it shouldn't be what makes attending a con fun. Just going in itself is the funnest part. Being in a relationship should compliment the experience. Happiness does come from within, after all. So, if I can keep all of this in mind, then I think my little one-day attendance to the local anime convention tomorrow will be a great day.
"It'll be okay, follow your heart,"
Rogue