LETTER: Mom - Taking Care of Pets, Spoiled Kids
I think the one thing that bothers me is how I allowed myself to get handed the responsibility of taking care of a cat. I love cats and all, but I got shoved into a situation where you don't want to say no in front of everyone and seem rude.
It just shocks me about the rest of the family. I know why it's set up that way though. The way those other cousins gripe and bitch about money ties into my Inheritance.
Even relatives can squabble over such things after I die regarding who is entitled to what. Some may even try to crown themselves as Royalty and think they are entitled to "ruling" over certain areas like Kingdoms.
That's so untrue. Once I die, it's not supposed to go to anyone else.
This was meant to be absurd to show how even my own relatives are squabbling about money even though I have one of the most important jobs on the Planet and I'm living in squalor in a place with no air conditioning and a broken sink.
I had people for three years pissed at me talking about how I owe them money when it was Davis who made all the decisions and blew my finances. I'm still paying for that debt.
To: Mom
From: Rod
Date: Wed, 12 Jul 2006 21:50:28 -0700 (PDT)
Subject: Taking Care of Natalie's Cat
Hey Mom,
Thanks for the money. It helped a lot. I'm using part of it for the Vehicle Registration, which is $128.00.
Gas Prices are $3.28/gallon. It's crazy. One full tank of gas cost $48.97.
Something happened where Natalie was supposed to give Auntie Sarie $25,000, but she forgot to deliver it yesterday. So Auntie Sarie wanted to go drive over to Downtown to Rowel's place and she dragged me along because she didn't want to be alone.
While I don't mind helping, we ended up staying there for about two hours because Auntie Sarie was with the kids.
Because I was there, Natalie cornered me and asked me if it would be alright for me to take care of her cat Rizzo while her family goes off to Las Vegas and Tucson, AZ to visit her sister for 7 days.
I was caught off guard and didn't want to say no. I do like cats. The original plan is where I was going to have to drive over to their place in downtown every day for 7 days.
Auntie Sarie was there so we kind of negotiated having the cat stay over at the house at Rampart.
While I understand and am grateful for Auntie Sarie's hospitality, it was kind of uncomfortable having to go there. Currently, I'm working on my financial situation to get out of this mess because after having spent so much time around family, I think I'd prefer to live alone.
One of the things I've noticed is that when you're around family, they ask you to do things for them because you're there and you're visible. At least when you're alone, nobody bothers you. You can have your peace and quiet.
Auntie Sarie was kind of venting because she's a bit upset with Natalie. Auntie Sarie was complaining about how Natalie was saying that Auntie Sarie was giving Maricar $300,000 and Natalie was expecting something similar. Auntie Sarie didn't want to get into a fight and so she just asked to talk to Rowel.
Auntie Sarie was complaining and told me on the drive over there that Maricar got mad and said that if Auntie Sarie didn't give her some amount of money (it was either $180,000 or $300,000), Maricar was threatening never to speak to Auntie Sarie again.
I'm just so shocked at the things I learn about Auntie Sarie's children. With my financial situation, I thought that the $50,000 was horrible, but the way that Auntie Sarie's kids seem to almost demand or expect her to give them money is really disturbing.
Auntie Sarie was saying while we were driving there that the kids would be in trouble if she ever died because they wouldn't get any money.
Auntie Sarie was still upset at what Natalie said about Maricar. Auntie Sarie was telling me that whatever she gives Maricar is her own business, and I agree. It seems that people make things about Favoritism and that if you don't give all the children the same amount it's unfair.
Even when we got to the place that Rowel and Natalie are staying, we had to sit in the Passenger Loading Lane for 10 minutes. They weren't picking up their phone. I don't know if that was poor planning on Auntie Sarie's part because it was a last minute decision to go or if they just weren't picking up.
Auntie Sarie was telling Natalie and Rowel that I got mad at her about the parallel parking. I didn't get mad at Auntie Sarie. Auntie Sarie was being really slow because she doesn't know how to parallel park and we were in the middle of traffic. So I was telling her to hurry up because we were still in the left lane of a one-way street.
I'm going to go take care of the cat. I do like cats, but I'm still a bit disappointed because it's a responsibility that is being placed on me. I really hope I don't have to drive there for 7 days to feed that cat.
I already have to feed Auntie Sarie's two birds. People keep asking me to take care of their animals. The reason why I don't have want my own pets is so that I don't have to take care of them. In the end, I end up taking care of other people's pets.
I just hope that it doesn't become a habit where I'm always going to be asked to take care of the cat every time they go out of town.
One of the things I said I don't like is how Brian likes to tell everyone I'm spoiled.
I thought about it, and I think the reason why he thinks I was spoiled and pampered is because every time he and his cousins would come up, you would be the "gracious hostess" showering them with attention, affection, and gifts.
So Brian being jealous automatically assumed that the way you act when they would come visit as guests is the way you are 365 days out of the year with me, which is untrue.
I believe he jumped to the conclusion that because you're always so nice and sweet when we have people over that I must live a pampered life. Considering how Brian and the rest of the kids bicker over money and get upset when they think Auntie Sarie shows favoritism to one child over another, I think that calling me spoiled and pampered is a really distorted perception.
One of the things I need to learn and practice more on is how to say no to people. I've noticed that I still have a problem with that because I don't want to appear rude or selfish.
As hard as it may be for some people to believe, I'm busy. However, even if I wasn't busy and just sitting around doing nothing, that's really no one's business.
I think one thing that bothers me a lot about Brian is that he would claim that because I'm an only child and because you're so nice that it must mean that I'm spoiled.
Even if it turned out that you did lavish me or give me things, your choice to have only one child was your decision. I cannot affect how many kids you chose to have or how many kids Auntie Sarie chose to have.
If someone chooses to have 7 children and another mother chooses to only have one being able to give that one child a proper education, attention, and affection while the other 7 children belonging to that family get less, why should one of the kids from the 7 make it like a personal failing or character flaw of the one who is an only child?
Personally, I think it's smart on the part of the parent who only decided to have one or two children vs. a parents that have over 3 or 4 and have to split their attention as well as their finances among the children.
The more children you have, the less there is to go around because you have to keep dividing the annual income of both parents among the household members. So of course it's going to be less.
This is one of the reasons why I am not interested in having kids any time soon. I don't know why anyone would want to have kids at such a young age. It's times like this that I'm glad I'm an only child.
Rod
It just shocks me about the rest of the family. I know why it's set up that way though. The way those other cousins gripe and bitch about money ties into my Inheritance.
Even relatives can squabble over such things after I die regarding who is entitled to what. Some may even try to crown themselves as Royalty and think they are entitled to "ruling" over certain areas like Kingdoms.
That's so untrue. Once I die, it's not supposed to go to anyone else.
This was meant to be absurd to show how even my own relatives are squabbling about money even though I have one of the most important jobs on the Planet and I'm living in squalor in a place with no air conditioning and a broken sink.
I had people for three years pissed at me talking about how I owe them money when it was Davis who made all the decisions and blew my finances. I'm still paying for that debt.
To: Mom
From: Rod
Date: Wed, 12 Jul 2006 21:50:28 -0700 (PDT)
Subject: Taking Care of Natalie's Cat
Hey Mom,
Thanks for the money. It helped a lot. I'm using part of it for the Vehicle Registration, which is $128.00.
Gas Prices are $3.28/gallon. It's crazy. One full tank of gas cost $48.97.
Something happened where Natalie was supposed to give Auntie Sarie $25,000, but she forgot to deliver it yesterday. So Auntie Sarie wanted to go drive over to Downtown to Rowel's place and she dragged me along because she didn't want to be alone.
While I don't mind helping, we ended up staying there for about two hours because Auntie Sarie was with the kids.
Because I was there, Natalie cornered me and asked me if it would be alright for me to take care of her cat Rizzo while her family goes off to Las Vegas and Tucson, AZ to visit her sister for 7 days.
I was caught off guard and didn't want to say no. I do like cats. The original plan is where I was going to have to drive over to their place in downtown every day for 7 days.
Auntie Sarie was there so we kind of negotiated having the cat stay over at the house at Rampart.
While I understand and am grateful for Auntie Sarie's hospitality, it was kind of uncomfortable having to go there. Currently, I'm working on my financial situation to get out of this mess because after having spent so much time around family, I think I'd prefer to live alone.
One of the things I've noticed is that when you're around family, they ask you to do things for them because you're there and you're visible. At least when you're alone, nobody bothers you. You can have your peace and quiet.
Auntie Sarie was kind of venting because she's a bit upset with Natalie. Auntie Sarie was complaining about how Natalie was saying that Auntie Sarie was giving Maricar $300,000 and Natalie was expecting something similar. Auntie Sarie didn't want to get into a fight and so she just asked to talk to Rowel.
Auntie Sarie was complaining and told me on the drive over there that Maricar got mad and said that if Auntie Sarie didn't give her some amount of money (it was either $180,000 or $300,000), Maricar was threatening never to speak to Auntie Sarie again.
I'm just so shocked at the things I learn about Auntie Sarie's children. With my financial situation, I thought that the $50,000 was horrible, but the way that Auntie Sarie's kids seem to almost demand or expect her to give them money is really disturbing.
Auntie Sarie was saying while we were driving there that the kids would be in trouble if she ever died because they wouldn't get any money.
Auntie Sarie was still upset at what Natalie said about Maricar. Auntie Sarie was telling me that whatever she gives Maricar is her own business, and I agree. It seems that people make things about Favoritism and that if you don't give all the children the same amount it's unfair.
Even when we got to the place that Rowel and Natalie are staying, we had to sit in the Passenger Loading Lane for 10 minutes. They weren't picking up their phone. I don't know if that was poor planning on Auntie Sarie's part because it was a last minute decision to go or if they just weren't picking up.
Auntie Sarie was telling Natalie and Rowel that I got mad at her about the parallel parking. I didn't get mad at Auntie Sarie. Auntie Sarie was being really slow because she doesn't know how to parallel park and we were in the middle of traffic. So I was telling her to hurry up because we were still in the left lane of a one-way street.
I'm going to go take care of the cat. I do like cats, but I'm still a bit disappointed because it's a responsibility that is being placed on me. I really hope I don't have to drive there for 7 days to feed that cat.
I already have to feed Auntie Sarie's two birds. People keep asking me to take care of their animals. The reason why I don't have want my own pets is so that I don't have to take care of them. In the end, I end up taking care of other people's pets.
I just hope that it doesn't become a habit where I'm always going to be asked to take care of the cat every time they go out of town.
One of the things I said I don't like is how Brian likes to tell everyone I'm spoiled.
I thought about it, and I think the reason why he thinks I was spoiled and pampered is because every time he and his cousins would come up, you would be the "gracious hostess" showering them with attention, affection, and gifts.
So Brian being jealous automatically assumed that the way you act when they would come visit as guests is the way you are 365 days out of the year with me, which is untrue.
I believe he jumped to the conclusion that because you're always so nice and sweet when we have people over that I must live a pampered life. Considering how Brian and the rest of the kids bicker over money and get upset when they think Auntie Sarie shows favoritism to one child over another, I think that calling me spoiled and pampered is a really distorted perception.
One of the things I need to learn and practice more on is how to say no to people. I've noticed that I still have a problem with that because I don't want to appear rude or selfish.
As hard as it may be for some people to believe, I'm busy. However, even if I wasn't busy and just sitting around doing nothing, that's really no one's business.
I think one thing that bothers me a lot about Brian is that he would claim that because I'm an only child and because you're so nice that it must mean that I'm spoiled.
Even if it turned out that you did lavish me or give me things, your choice to have only one child was your decision. I cannot affect how many kids you chose to have or how many kids Auntie Sarie chose to have.
If someone chooses to have 7 children and another mother chooses to only have one being able to give that one child a proper education, attention, and affection while the other 7 children belonging to that family get less, why should one of the kids from the 7 make it like a personal failing or character flaw of the one who is an only child?
Personally, I think it's smart on the part of the parent who only decided to have one or two children vs. a parents that have over 3 or 4 and have to split their attention as well as their finances among the children.
The more children you have, the less there is to go around because you have to keep dividing the annual income of both parents among the household members. So of course it's going to be less.
This is one of the reasons why I am not interested in having kids any time soon. I don't know why anyone would want to have kids at such a young age. It's times like this that I'm glad I'm an only child.
Rod