Of games and social norms
After reading a piece of English comprehension on social skills that said society was a case of playing house, a though occurred to me.
It is rather interesting that the writing pointed out the rules we have to follow and have always been told to follow are ones that someone or some community made up.
Yet, the thing that really intrigued me is that some people go to the extent of proclaiming that these rules are sacred and unbreakable and anything subversive to these established rules are wrong and evil. I know everybody has the right to believe in what they believe, but does it really have to end in condemnation of the other party? I think going separate ways is the better way.
Personally, I see myself as a very experimental person and quite theoretical too. People sometimes hate me for that. What I usually bring are subversive thoughts and really, if I were to let my thoughts be heard, I'd be bringing loads of discomfort to people. That's why I chose to shut up. Yet, the conclusion I've come to is: No matter what I do, people can't stop judging me (and trying to make me seem inferior so they can look superior). The principles they follow in judging me? I have no idea.
Is this a problem that is solely in HK or is it that my habit in acknowledging all these subtle looks and gestures around me have made me...too sensitive?
The core of the problem is...Well, if you can't give me the impression that you're giving respect to my set of rules, I can't respect yours neither. I think there's a misconception that if there is no need for communication, then most people just don't think one would even have to bother respecting the other party. I think it's rather a bad way to deal with things, but seems okay in this society. Yet, have people though about the fact that, erm...You never know when you will unfortunately have to work in hand with the other party? If such a scenario does pop up, then the embarrassment would totally be foreseen and an invited one. I just hope people don't go blaming others again. It's just childish.
I'm just trying to be objective here. If the rules are different, I think staying objective would be the best way to cope. It doesn't mean one has to totally show disdain to the other party, eh? But that's just me, we live in a world of freedom and everyone can have their own way. But in the end, even social norms are based on the simple fact that people respect these norms as laws abiding them to the society they are in. If not, everything means nothing. Listen first, then judge and keep that in your heart. I don't want to know.
It is rather interesting that the writing pointed out the rules we have to follow and have always been told to follow are ones that someone or some community made up.
Yet, the thing that really intrigued me is that some people go to the extent of proclaiming that these rules are sacred and unbreakable and anything subversive to these established rules are wrong and evil. I know everybody has the right to believe in what they believe, but does it really have to end in condemnation of the other party? I think going separate ways is the better way.
Personally, I see myself as a very experimental person and quite theoretical too. People sometimes hate me for that. What I usually bring are subversive thoughts and really, if I were to let my thoughts be heard, I'd be bringing loads of discomfort to people. That's why I chose to shut up. Yet, the conclusion I've come to is: No matter what I do, people can't stop judging me (and trying to make me seem inferior so they can look superior). The principles they follow in judging me? I have no idea.
Is this a problem that is solely in HK or is it that my habit in acknowledging all these subtle looks and gestures around me have made me...too sensitive?
The core of the problem is...Well, if you can't give me the impression that you're giving respect to my set of rules, I can't respect yours neither. I think there's a misconception that if there is no need for communication, then most people just don't think one would even have to bother respecting the other party. I think it's rather a bad way to deal with things, but seems okay in this society. Yet, have people though about the fact that, erm...You never know when you will unfortunately have to work in hand with the other party? If such a scenario does pop up, then the embarrassment would totally be foreseen and an invited one. I just hope people don't go blaming others again. It's just childish.
I'm just trying to be objective here. If the rules are different, I think staying objective would be the best way to cope. It doesn't mean one has to totally show disdain to the other party, eh? But that's just me, we live in a world of freedom and everyone can have their own way. But in the end, even social norms are based on the simple fact that people respect these norms as laws abiding them to the society they are in. If not, everything means nothing. Listen first, then judge and keep that in your heart. I don't want to know.