Learning to dance in the rain

[rivet]

I’m working with a new operating premise: upheaval is actually the norm in my life rather than the exception. In fact, one of the driving tensions in my life is that between my desire for security and intimacy on the one hand, and my desire for learning and novelty on the other. If I accept that as a choice, rather than imagining it as something that will eventually get locked down, the skills needed to thrive in those circumstances come into focus. I need to recognise my personal minimum secure domains for personal sanity, identify what about them creates that subjective sense of security and prioritise creating/maintaining those. I must listen to my body and prioritise the health, fitness and wellness that keeps me grounded and resilient. I need to be alert to signs of *approaching* ‘too much’ instead of just seeing them in the rearview mirror.

There will be other international relocations, job or career changes, relationships starting and ending, travel, deaths, family crises. This is a given. I may never be ‘settled’ in a way that means my life is predictable year after year. That is okay.

Thoughts on other essential skills for that kind of life?