I CAN'T keep questioning her!

[rippling_anokij]

We have talked about it until we are both blue in the face. I just am so brusied from past girls, I can't figure out how to stop being jealous and how to trust her. She keeps saying she won't give up on me but we have trust and attention talks at least once a week and I know it drives her nuts and I know one day she is gonna have enough. I just

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[anonymous]

Hey Becky, it's Emily. I think everything you're doing is so right on. It's so hard when you have been hurt in the past to convince your heart of what your head already knows. Like I said before, for me it just took time. I know that after I would talk about it with my boyfriend, I would almost feel silly sometimes. He made it so obvious that he wasn't interested in anyone else but me, but I just needed that reassurance. The thing that drove me crazy was actually facebook. Like, why did his ex write on his wall? Why does she want to catch up with him? I am the kind of person who just wants to push all that behind me, so I leave it all in the past. My boyfriend likes to remain friendly, though. Unfortunately, after nine months of dating, he eventually "unfriended" some of those people on facebook just because it was driving me so crazy. I guess that helped me calm down, but I still feel really guilty about it. In fact, just a few days ago I told him he should re-friend one of these girls because she moved away and is all alone where she is, I think. It still makes me feel a little nervous (because I felt she was a little disrespectful of our relationship), but it also makes me less guilty. It is going to take lots and lots of time, but ask her if she is ready for that. Ask her if she can do her best to stick this out, because together you CAN get through it. I know exactly what you're talking about, and I know a big part of why I got through it was because he was so willing to help me work through it. Tell her you just need her support, and you can do it. I know you can! I know being so far apart makes it so much harder, but if you need to talk about it, do it! Maybe just write to yourself like you're talking to her and get your thoughts together. Sometimes just writing it out makes it easier to deal with. You can just throw it away when you're done. Tell her what days you're not feeling so great, but your conversations don't have to dwell on that, either. I believe you two will get through this!!!!!!!!