So I walked into one of my residents rooms last night, and on his table he had a book lying open. It was titled bewildering behaviour. I don't know why but I started reading it. It was a story about a boy who had failed his exams 3 times. He couldn't work out why he kept failing, he really wanted to pass these exams. He had a pretty high IQ and hadn't struggled with any other exams he had taken. So after considering this for a while and speaking to several people he began to realise that as he was growing up his parents had always appeared very knowledgeable to him. They had always expected him to do well. When he did well they praised him and heaped love upon him.
After a while he began to resent his parents for putting such high demands on him and became angry at them. He couldn't vocalise his feelings so repressed them The thing is though you can't bury your feelings dead, you always bury them alive and at some point his feelings began to resurface. He had started to associated his parents love for him with doing well in his exams. He sub-consciously began to reject his parents love and began to fail his exams, even though passing was something he always wanted. So at the end of the day when it came to passing his exams he was failing, but when it came to getting what he wanted, in this case expressing his feelings, he had already succeeded.
Not entirely sure why I wanted to tell you that story.
Possibly because I am incredibly lazy and completly inactive.
Fancy moving to london this year? Im really considering seeing about getting an apartment after I finish my course and finding a job in an area im interested in.
After a while he began to resent his parents for putting such high demands on him and became angry at them. He couldn't vocalise his feelings so repressed them The thing is though you can't bury your feelings dead, you always bury them alive and at some point his feelings began to resurface. He had started to associated his parents love for him with doing well in his exams. He sub-consciously began to reject his parents love and began to fail his exams, even though passing was something he always wanted. So at the end of the day when it came to passing his exams he was failing, but when it came to getting what he wanted, in this case expressing his feelings, he had already succeeded.
Not entirely sure why I wanted to tell you that story.
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Fancy moving to london this year? Im really considering seeing about getting an apartment after I finish my course and finding a job in an area im interested in.
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