self indulgent drek
forget adoption
forget divorce
forget extra marital affairs
these are essential for understanding of this picture
Imagine a couple. This couple wants to have a child. They want a child more than anything in the world. They know how much work it'll be, they know it won't be easy, they know it won't make their life perfect, but more than anything they want a child. They can't. They've tried every trick in the book, from high science to folk remedies, from the far east to the far west. They tried everything and nothing worked. They couldn't have a child, though thats all they wanted. The periods continued like clockwork, maybe one would be missed here or there, but it always tested negative, no pregnancy. They went to doctors to find out what was wrong, maybe the tests were wrong, maybe there was something wrong with them. The tests were right, and they were both in perfect health.
They have a home, its a lovely home with lots of room for a growing family. Over time their home changed as they watched their friends, siblings, loved ones have children. More often than not, these children came through accident. What this couple was searching for, others found by accident. Sometimes the children were treated well and for a time the couple could take joy in this, other times the children were mistreated and abused, this angered the couple. This gift that they yearned for, others just threw away.
Eventually they started to blame themselves for this lack of children, then they started to blame each other. They fought and squabbled and bickered. Their home changed, they started using the many rooms, that were once meant for children, for other things. The rooms accumulated things: here a stack of magazines, there some old disused exercise equipment, in the corner maybe some clothes.
They threw parties for awhile, every week they had a get together at their home. Then they got tired of that and started going out into the community. They got involved at their church, they joined groups and clubs and organizations. They put on the facade so that no one knew how bad it was at home.
They once had so much love, all they wanted was a child to share it with. With no outlet for this love it started to stagnate. The love turned to hate. They grew to hate children, they watched the children of their friends, siblings, loved ones grow up. They saw the pride in their friends, siblings, loved ones eyes as those children grew from babies to children, to teenagers. Watched those children go to college and move out on their own. The couple hated children.
And then they died. This couple, who had grown to hate each other and children and other couples with children. They died alone.
They will never be alone. There will always be other couples, couples who want children, couples who grow to hate. Some of these couples have children, but lose them. The love they shared turns to bitterness, then to hate.
Couples like this are always alone, and never alone.
forget divorce
forget extra marital affairs
these are essential for understanding of this picture
Imagine a couple. This couple wants to have a child. They want a child more than anything in the world. They know how much work it'll be, they know it won't be easy, they know it won't make their life perfect, but more than anything they want a child. They can't. They've tried every trick in the book, from high science to folk remedies, from the far east to the far west. They tried everything and nothing worked. They couldn't have a child, though thats all they wanted. The periods continued like clockwork, maybe one would be missed here or there, but it always tested negative, no pregnancy. They went to doctors to find out what was wrong, maybe the tests were wrong, maybe there was something wrong with them. The tests were right, and they were both in perfect health.
They have a home, its a lovely home with lots of room for a growing family. Over time their home changed as they watched their friends, siblings, loved ones have children. More often than not, these children came through accident. What this couple was searching for, others found by accident. Sometimes the children were treated well and for a time the couple could take joy in this, other times the children were mistreated and abused, this angered the couple. This gift that they yearned for, others just threw away.
Eventually they started to blame themselves for this lack of children, then they started to blame each other. They fought and squabbled and bickered. Their home changed, they started using the many rooms, that were once meant for children, for other things. The rooms accumulated things: here a stack of magazines, there some old disused exercise equipment, in the corner maybe some clothes.
They threw parties for awhile, every week they had a get together at their home. Then they got tired of that and started going out into the community. They got involved at their church, they joined groups and clubs and organizations. They put on the facade so that no one knew how bad it was at home.
They once had so much love, all they wanted was a child to share it with. With no outlet for this love it started to stagnate. The love turned to hate. They grew to hate children, they watched the children of their friends, siblings, loved ones grow up. They saw the pride in their friends, siblings, loved ones eyes as those children grew from babies to children, to teenagers. Watched those children go to college and move out on their own. The couple hated children.
And then they died. This couple, who had grown to hate each other and children and other couples with children. They died alone.
They will never be alone. There will always be other couples, couples who want children, couples who grow to hate. Some of these couples have children, but lose them. The love they shared turns to bitterness, then to hate.
Couples like this are always alone, and never alone.