Weight *can* mean that one isn't watchful of certain healthful patterns of exercise and eating appropriate quantities of healthful food.... but weight *can* also mean genetic predisposition to a certain body fat ratio. I've even read a book that noted that some people feel a sense of relief at being fat so that they can be insulated from the sort of interaction that some thinner people get (for example, attention from people attracted to them).
For myself, I understand some people tend to be a bit fluffy and some tend to be skinny. I tend to congratulate people for making progress toward their goals; if that's to feel healthier it may mean weight gain or loss, or exercise, or the like.
I think having a bout of depression or two can make some people more thoughtful and interesting as people. I think my depressions (relatively short, thankfully) made me a lot more thoughtful person. However, I'm always sad to see people actually experiencing depression.
Looks like I'm on a stream of conciousness tonight... so pardon the distracted flow here. Recently someone I care a lot about lost a lot of weight due to illness, and finally reached a weight loss goal, but it was a crummy way to get there.
So, congratulations on your recent weight loss progress! I hope it means a healthier food and activity process for you.
It's okay to have a weight preference in mates, so long as it isn't a weight *prejudice* (as in, thinking all people of a certain weight are that way due to some sterotype).
One of my friends is fat positive -- trying to break the societal attitudes that fat people are [some stereotype]. Another is dieting and prone to depression like you. Another has finally reached a weight goal through illness. Another has always just been big framed and expects some people to write her off because of it. Some acquaintances of mine have terrible eating and exercise skills (and health problems) and along with smoking, are pretty unhealthy, and weight is a part of it. And you know, the societal expectations of men vs. women are very different. So... it's a fascinating topic. It's part of people's human stories.
For myself, I understand some people tend to be a bit fluffy and some tend to be skinny. I tend to congratulate people for making progress toward their goals; if that's to feel healthier it may mean weight gain or loss, or exercise, or the like.
I think having a bout of depression or two can make some people more thoughtful and interesting as people. I think my depressions (relatively short, thankfully) made me a lot more thoughtful person. However, I'm always sad to see people actually experiencing depression.
Looks like I'm on a stream of conciousness tonight... so pardon the distracted flow here. Recently someone I care a lot about lost a lot of weight due to illness, and finally reached a weight loss goal, but it was a crummy way to get there.
So, congratulations on your recent weight loss progress! I hope it means a healthier food and activity process for you.
It's okay to have a weight preference in mates, so long as it isn't a weight *prejudice* (as in, thinking all people of a certain weight are that way due to some sterotype).
One of my friends is fat positive -- trying to break the societal attitudes that fat people are [some stereotype]. Another is dieting and prone to depression like you. Another has finally reached a weight goal through illness. Another has always just been big framed and expects some people to write her off because of it. Some acquaintances of mine have terrible eating and exercise skills (and health problems) and along with smoking, are pretty unhealthy, and weight is a part of it.
And you know, the societal expectations of men vs. women are very different. So... it's a fascinating topic. It's part of people's human stories.
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