Comments | rememberjuly: A. and J. again

rememberjuly

A. and J. again

May 26, 2009 12:45

I gave her one more chance, and she stood me up. I'm not surprised. I'm just a stupid one more chance kind of person. The follow letter will be mailed tomorrow:

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Comments 9

dymphnalynn May 26 2009, 20:31:31 UTC

I don't know the whole situation (how you became friends, etc.) but sometimes people just change. This seems to be the case, and I think it's in your best interests to move on. I also agree with you, you guys are obviously the last people they plan on paying back at this time when everyone is probably screaming for a piece of them. That might be money best forgotten about.

The good thing about this is, as much as you'll miss her initially, you've now got more space in your life for people you have things in common with NOW. :)

rememberjuly May 29 2009, 15:06:08 UTC

I'm having problems finding people these days. I kind of don't care anymore, which is sad. I just don't have the energy to meet new people and work toward the mutual relationship I expect. With time, I guess.

meganspregnant May 27 2009, 00:00:15 UTC

I don't think you could have said it any better.

rememberjuly May 29 2009, 15:06:22 UTC

Thanks. :D

eighthcloud May 27 2009, 09:25:02 UTC

I'm so glad you're doing this. It will really help with the healing process. *hugs*

rememberjuly May 29 2009, 15:06:57 UTC

Thanks. It has helped already. I feel like I did the best, most mature thing I could.

moogiesmom May 27 2009, 12:19:53 UTC

I, also, have had to let go with friends. One particular I've had since 5th grade. (yes, that's like 40 years!) Your case is very sad because it wasn't just from growing apart, or from someone not really knowing the definition of friendship. I think you are doing the right thing. If in time, she has healed somewhat and wants to talk to you, I wouldn't shut her out, but that's where I would be guarded. Don't shut yourself off from other people because of her. You have to much to offer, and I know you are a VERY GOOD friend.

rememberjuly May 29 2009, 15:09:02 UTC

Wow, 40 years! How much did you grieve over that loss? Or was it over time for it to end?

I never close the door on anyone permanently so if she wants to talk, I will be open.

moogiesmom June 1 2009, 03:15:27 UTC

It was just time for it to end. We still talk if we see each other, but she was never there for me. I would only see her if things were going bad in her life and she needed someone. then she would call me. Otherwise it could be years. If I tried to get in touch, she was busy. Not what I would call a friendship any longer. I was feeling used.