You're 21! You are SOOOO young. I know you might not feel like it, but take it from this old lady (who just turned 29 omg I'm practically dead).
True, by the time I was 21 I found a guy I was in love with. But I started dating at 15 and really scraped the bottom of the barrel. I lived a million lives between 15 and 21, ya know?
Also... well I hope not to offend or upset you with this... but...
If I understand correctly in that you are "saving yourself" for either the right girl or marriage, well that's something that many girls won't want or understand. Sometimes a girl might think she wants that, but really what she wants is to be the girl who you like SO MUCH that you give up on that. And then when she finds she's not that girl (i.e. you don't like her enough to throw your morals and values to the wind), she gets hurt and upset and leaves. I'm not saying that this is what is happening, because I don't really know much about your personal life. I'm just saying this is a possibility.
Also, I think maybe you're attracted to the wrong type of girl. It happens with women ALL the time. They are always attracted to the sleezebags and cry and bemoan their state of always dating rats. But they always manage to end up with the same type of guy. Maybe because it's comfortable? Maybe because they just have bad luck. -_-
aaah mally*grins* about time you guys actually found out how old i am eh? *chuckles* you've always had a rough idea, but never figured i was that young...i'll be 22 soon though if that makes you feel any better?^_^
I know what you mean, i've been like a tornado in the love department since my first girlfriend at 15..and now i don't know.
I do always end up with the same kind of girl..i try not to! seriously(i'm sure women say the same thing all the time) i try and go to different places try different things, but i guess we all just attract who we attract sometimes. Atfirst they all seem pretty normal, then by the end of things its almost like they've all turned into the same girl...*shrugs* with differences of course, but speaking in general terms...
As for the whole "saving" myself thing...its true i am saving myself for the right girl..i mean, don't get me wrong i like to try all the things inbetween, but i don't wanna sleep with a girl until i know that things are gonna work out for more than a month. I know myself^_^ if i sleep with just one girl...then i'll take things that far with just about every girl..and that just wouldn't be healthy. so as long as i keep myself in check and don't sleep with girls i'll always be able to draw the line there for the time being.
*grins* and if they aren't the one, they aren't the one, whether they get hurt that i won't sleep with them or not. Theres always more girls out there...more girls than guys^_~
I don't know hun, I think my real problem is i know what i want..but i think i know what i want TO much...so i date girls that i'm just dating for physical reasons until i CAN find the girl that i know i'm looking for...hopefully though i don't have my mind set to much on a girl that might not exist that i completely don't see a girl that COULD be perfect(in a very gernalized use of the word ya know?) that i just see all the things that she ISN"T and not all the things that she IS for me. *grumbles and stratches his head* blah! i shouldn't think, everytime i start to think about this it makes my head hurt because theres so many possiblities that i just get all tangled up in them...
I like dating don't get me wrong...i'm just not about to settle...ya know?
you always give some of the best girl advice...thanks mal^_^
True, by the time I was 21 I found a guy I was in love with. But I started dating at 15 and really scraped the bottom of the barrel. I lived a million lives between 15 and 21, ya know?
Also... well I hope not to offend or upset you with this... but...
If I understand correctly in that you are "saving yourself" for either the right girl or marriage, well that's something that many girls won't want or understand. Sometimes a girl might think she wants that, but really what she wants is to be the girl who you like SO MUCH that you give up on that. And then when she finds she's not that girl (i.e. you don't like her enough to throw your morals and values to the wind), she gets hurt and upset and leaves. I'm not saying that this is what is happening, because I don't really know much about your personal life. I'm just saying this is a possibility.
Also, I think maybe you're attracted to the wrong type of girl. It happens with women ALL the time. They are always attracted to the sleezebags and cry and bemoan their state of always dating rats. But they always manage to end up with the same type of guy. Maybe because it's comfortable? Maybe because they just have bad luck. -_-
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I know what you mean, i've been like a tornado in the love department since my first girlfriend at 15..and now i don't know.
I do always end up with the same kind of girl..i try not to! seriously(i'm sure women say the same thing all the time) i try and go to different places try different things, but i guess we all just attract who we attract sometimes. Atfirst they all seem pretty normal, then by the end of things its almost like they've all turned into the same girl...*shrugs* with differences of course, but speaking in general terms...
As for the whole "saving" myself thing...its true i am saving myself for the right girl..i mean, don't get me wrong i like to try all the things inbetween, but i don't wanna sleep with a girl until i know that things are gonna work out for more than a month. I know myself^_^ if i sleep with just one girl...then i'll take things that far with just about every girl..and that just wouldn't be healthy. so as long as i keep myself in check and don't sleep with girls i'll always be able to draw the line there for the time being.
*grins* and if they aren't the one, they aren't the one, whether they get hurt that i won't sleep with them or not. Theres always more girls out there...more girls than guys^_~
I don't know hun, I think my real problem is i know what i want..but i think i know what i want TO much...so i date girls that i'm just dating for physical reasons until i CAN find the girl that i know i'm looking for...hopefully though i don't have my mind set to much on a girl that might not exist that i completely don't see a girl that COULD be perfect(in a very gernalized use of the word ya know?) that i just see all the things that she ISN"T and not all the things that she IS for me. *grumbles and stratches his head* blah! i shouldn't think, everytime i start to think about this it makes my head hurt because theres so many possiblities that i just get all tangled up in them...
I like dating don't get me wrong...i'm just not about to settle...ya know?
you always give some of the best girl advice...thanks mal^_^
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