Divergence
Divergence is the title of my reply to SG3’s, AKA my wife, maybe AKA my ex-wife, recent post to explain how we have gone wrong.
As I hear what she says at the core of our divergence was the lack of friendship between us or maybe the fact that I had intimacy with other friends both men and woman that she felt in some ways violated the container of our relationship.
My lament is that we have never been able to deconstruct the events of our life together and then reconstruct our intimacy around our new understanding of each other. For me the things she describes there are tragic divergences in our perceptions of what happened and what it meant. The second tragedy is that I have never been able to ask the right questions such that I could clearly understand what was wanted.
She laments that we were not best friends, and I would say that I tried in every way to be her friend to offer her support and be there for growth as a human. In the time I have known her I know of no better friend to her than I.
r.s.
As I hear what she says at the core of our divergence was the lack of friendship between us or maybe the fact that I had intimacy with other friends both men and woman that she felt in some ways violated the container of our relationship.
My lament is that we have never been able to deconstruct the events of our life together and then reconstruct our intimacy around our new understanding of each other. For me the things she describes there are tragic divergences in our perceptions of what happened and what it meant. The second tragedy is that I have never been able to ask the right questions such that I could clearly understand what was wanted.
She laments that we were not best friends, and I would say that I tried in every way to be her friend to offer her support and be there for growth as a human. In the time I have known her I know of no better friend to her than I.
r.s.