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[realwomanchild]

I have often been referred to by a friend as the voice of reason. Most likely because I turn things over in my mind for a long while before I jump to conclusions. I've been the sounding board to, in theory, help a friend not be unreasonable. I tend to be pretty good at seeing and understanding more than just one side of a situation

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[nocturnalfright]

You are not the only person that has done one or two of the things mentioned. The eating thing...I have said MANY times that it is one thing if I offer food (and I realize that not everyone comes empty handed...most people don't, actually), but there are a few people as of late that are expecting to be fed upon every visit to the house, and that is rude and unfair. Think what you will, but if you were in housing and being accused of "recent dog harboring" (I got bitched at for the cats too, but I do in fact have kitties on my back porch...and I haven't had a dog in here in months), running an unsanctioned business, possibly having spouse/partner swapping parties (the only thing that saved me there is that my manager knew without a doubt that Fabian isn't deployed, whereas the neighbors claimed I was engaging in "questionable, possibly sexual activities ivolving a large group of people" while my husband was deployed). I do not wish to be, nor can we afford to be, kicked out of quarters. I cannot risk having security called on an (obviously) false complaint and have them find me doing hair, find anyone or thing that looks "morally amiss", find ANYTHING that could get me or Fabian in a whole lot of hot water. Remember, they have the absolute right to come in, unannounced if need be. It states that very clearly in my housing contract. I don't think you are grasping the utmost gravity of the situation. I was pretty certain that the new rules would piss people off, and that some would (incorrectly) conclude/assume that the rules were somehow about them, and it is simply not the case. I am just not prepared to deal with any false allegations being made and me and my family/friends being in a position that could lend even the tiniest speck of credence to the complainant, because that will absolutely fuck us over. Tony was brought up again at this meeting, and as I mentioned before, I assumed (incorrectly) that this meeting was solely about him. While it included him, it was about so much more. Obviouly I am not going to post "Tony needs to remove his belongings" in the list of rules, because he doesn't read LJ. The rules that pertained (however remotely) to my friends that DO read LJ were posted. I will not feel badly about laying down rules to protect my family. I'd expect anyone else with family obligations to do the same, were it necessary.

-J