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I have often been referred to by a friend as the voice of reason. Most likely because I turn things over in my mind for a long while before I jump to conclusions. I've been the sounding board to, in theory, help a friend not be unreasonable. I tend to be pretty good at seeing and understanding more than just one side of a situation.
Mind you, these are not conclusions I've come to on my own, these are things that I have been told over and over in the past months, as more and more drama has unfolded that I totally wanted no part of. This is the third time in the short history of my journal (because yeah it's been here awhile, but I don't use it publicly much) that I have had to say this. I hate it, I hate being a part of drama. And you start to see these patterns. And hey, I'm not the only one or two or even three or four seeing these patterns, but it's such a delicate situation, and how do you handle it without hurting someone's feelings? I've been beyond patient. When you push a persons buttons and push a persons buttons, its only a matter of time before before they snap, and most likely the result is something that you never would have expected.
It starts with little inconsequential things that don't matter, but if you let it go, it becomes more and more and more, until you're in this despairing pit of caring about someone but knowing that you will never be able to reason with them, and if there is any chance of maintaining any kind of relationship you are faced with but a few options. Keep going the way it is, and be unhappy with it. And angry all the time. Slowly extricate yourself from the situation, if you have to patience, or try to do one of the other two and explode when it's just one more crazy thing you don't even want to have to think about.
An excuse? Never.
Just an explanation.
Jenn, as far as public accusations...anyone who spends a fair amount of time at your house knows exactly why each and every one of those new rules for the house was made. And who the person, or persons, are that made the new rule a necessity. Whether you named a persons name or not. Public is public, and you went down that road first, and presented situations like they were something that you were totally disapproving of, and I don't just mean the things that I know were meant for me...even so far as the eating at your house thing...and that's kind of messed up. I figured, turn about is fair play.
Mind you, these are not conclusions I've come to on my own, these are things that I have been told over and over in the past months, as more and more drama has unfolded that I totally wanted no part of. This is the third time in the short history of my journal (because yeah it's been here awhile, but I don't use it publicly much) that I have had to say this. I hate it, I hate being a part of drama. And you start to see these patterns. And hey, I'm not the only one or two or even three or four seeing these patterns, but it's such a delicate situation, and how do you handle it without hurting someone's feelings? I've been beyond patient. When you push a persons buttons and push a persons buttons, its only a matter of time before before they snap, and most likely the result is something that you never would have expected.
It starts with little inconsequential things that don't matter, but if you let it go, it becomes more and more and more, until you're in this despairing pit of caring about someone but knowing that you will never be able to reason with them, and if there is any chance of maintaining any kind of relationship you are faced with but a few options. Keep going the way it is, and be unhappy with it. And angry all the time. Slowly extricate yourself from the situation, if you have to patience, or try to do one of the other two and explode when it's just one more crazy thing you don't even want to have to think about.
An excuse? Never.
Just an explanation.
Jenn, as far as public accusations...anyone who spends a fair amount of time at your house knows exactly why each and every one of those new rules for the house was made. And who the person, or persons, are that made the new rule a necessity. Whether you named a persons name or not. Public is public, and you went down that road first, and presented situations like they were something that you were totally disapproving of, and I don't just mean the things that I know were meant for me...even so far as the eating at your house thing...and that's kind of messed up. I figured, turn about is fair play.