How Children Are
I used to dislike children, especially those who cry a lot. I hate hearing them cry, and I tried to get away from them as much as I can, except when the children are quiet and well-behaved, or if they're my cousins.
I was reading someone's blog, when I learned something about children. He is a psychologist. He graduated from University of Indonesia (UI) and had a lot of work experience.
What did he say about children?
They are able to love unconditionally. When they love you, whatever you do, they still do. However, if they have decided that they don't like you, whatever you do, they're not going to like you.
He gave a case of a little boy who was abused by his mother, but he still loved his mother dearly.
I have just realized that it's true. I'm currently staying with a British family that consists of a father, a mother, a daughter and a son. The son is 5 this year, and the daughter is 10 this year.
I didn't talk to them a lot, really, but the daughter made an effort to talk to me. And so did the son.
What made me think they won't hate you if they've already decided to like you?
I was offering the tongs to the son during dinner, and he was about to take it when his father came over and scolded him, thinking he was about to snatch it from me. I tried explaining it to him, but he was already scolding his son. He was also asked to apologize to me, and he cried while he did so.
My conscience was eating me alive while that happened, and afterwards. I was worried he would be mad at me (because seriously, if that happened to ME, I would be mad at both my father for falsely accusing me and that person for not making an effort to defend me), but he wasn't. He still greeted me as usual, and when I was about to take the laundry out to hang them, he opened the door for me (sweet but hyperactive little kid he is).
The daughter and the son both raced to my room to call me for dinner, and he complained to his mother when she beat him to it.
I have never felt so loved by little children. And this adds another reason to why I don't want to leave this house.
Children are amazing like that. I wonder why we, as adults, do not have that quality anymore.
I was reading someone's blog, when I learned something about children. He is a psychologist. He graduated from University of Indonesia (UI) and had a lot of work experience.
What did he say about children?
They are able to love unconditionally. When they love you, whatever you do, they still do. However, if they have decided that they don't like you, whatever you do, they're not going to like you.
He gave a case of a little boy who was abused by his mother, but he still loved his mother dearly.
I have just realized that it's true. I'm currently staying with a British family that consists of a father, a mother, a daughter and a son. The son is 5 this year, and the daughter is 10 this year.
I didn't talk to them a lot, really, but the daughter made an effort to talk to me. And so did the son.
What made me think they won't hate you if they've already decided to like you?
I was offering the tongs to the son during dinner, and he was about to take it when his father came over and scolded him, thinking he was about to snatch it from me. I tried explaining it to him, but he was already scolding his son. He was also asked to apologize to me, and he cried while he did so.
My conscience was eating me alive while that happened, and afterwards. I was worried he would be mad at me (because seriously, if that happened to ME, I would be mad at both my father for falsely accusing me and that person for not making an effort to defend me), but he wasn't. He still greeted me as usual, and when I was about to take the laundry out to hang them, he opened the door for me (sweet but hyperactive little kid he is).
The daughter and the son both raced to my room to call me for dinner, and he complained to his mother when she beat him to it.
I have never felt so loved by little children. And this adds another reason to why I don't want to leave this house.
Children are amazing like that. I wonder why we, as adults, do not have that quality anymore.