Sep 24, 2005 11:23
This is a forward I got, and I'd like all girls to take a moment to read this. Its really disturbing because I do and have a lot of these ideal targets rapists are looking for, and I know alot of other girls/women who do.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they
look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts.
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are
most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle
that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with
long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose
clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut
clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their
purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off and can be
easily overpowered.
4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the
early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery store
parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is
public rest-rooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and
quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about
getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a
3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it
only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't
worth it because it will be time consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other
similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not
a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them
as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell,
look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make
general small talk, I can't believe it is so cold out here or we're in for a bad
winter. Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a lineup, you
lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and
yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd
leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to
fight
back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and
carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding
it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by
outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the
attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner
thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the
underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she
broke
through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try
pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is
extremely
painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you
more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman
who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, & he's out of
there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and
bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as
possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended
up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your
surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd
behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly
at the
time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
AFTER YOU READ THIS, FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW, IT'S SIMPLE STUFF
BUT IT COULD SAVE HER LIFE.
If you have daughters please share this with them.