A good influence
I am fairly certain I'm not a person to really be left alone with children.
Not that I put them in any kind of danger - quite the contrary really, I'm incredibly careful and protective - making sure they don't get hurt.
On the other hand...I'm not always a very good influence
Children usually either love me or they think I'm the creepiest thing in ( Read more... )
Not that I put them in any kind of danger - quite the contrary really, I'm incredibly careful and protective - making sure they don't get hurt.
On the other hand...I'm not always a very good influence
Children usually either love me or they think I'm the creepiest thing in ( Read more... )
God I have such a soft spot for Netherlands. I wonder why I don't read stuff with him more often... and I can never work him into my fics. ;__;
On to more relevant matters...
I think you were a brilliant influence on your cousin.
My brother is autistic, and the first definition of a word he hears is the correct one. Forever. So, I was understandably concerned when he was starting Jr. High, when they started using the word 'gay' as a negative word. (IE: "That class was so gay.")
I asked him if he had a crush on any girls and he refused to answer me, and then I asked if he had a crush on a guy and he was all "what? how can a boy love another boy?"
And I ended up explaining.
I don't think he understands it fully though. And bisexuality is way over his head. I tell him that I like girls and boys, and he just asks me if I'm gay.
Speaking of that, I went to see a play today that my brother and dad were in, and there was this adorable little girl. I said that I totally fell in love with her and my brother was all "Amber, are you gay?" and I was all "Yup~" and hugged him.
I definitely think that teaching kids about these things is the way to go. More often than not, it's the adults that have the issues with people that are different. Kids are formed by their parents, which is where the issue sprouts. If we can show them different perspectives earlier on, we'll have a more loving world before we know it.
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I find him not too difficult to work in...he's so versetile in his behaviour that I just find ways to make it work XD
I don't see 'alternative' sexualeties as anything one should hide or be ashamed off.
I'm straigh (well,think I am anyways... XD) but I have quite a large amount of bisexual and gay friends. I couldn't care less what their preferences are - they're lovely people to talk to and that's all that matters ^^
I have a flatmate who likes to "joke" about lesbians and will constantly make me out to be one(might be because I am ridiciolusly clingy and affectionate in 'hug' way XD)...ion one hand I don't give a damn because it's not true - on the other hand she almost gives the vibe off that she's rahter homophobic - and THAT bothers me
I really hope it's jsut me who takes her words wrong..because I'd hate to have to point out to her that one girl in my class is gay, one girl is Bi, one girl that we both know very well is also bi and so on and so forth...
Authism must be a bit difficult to live with for others, but I don't think you should assume he doesn't get it. he might not be able to fuly explain the term himself, but he might still understand what it means ^^
and besides, he's still family, doubt he'll care really ^^
indeed. I'm lucky in that my parents are fairly liberal and open minded (the random discussions around our dinnertable are rahter varied...death penalty, gay marriage, abortion...yeah..xD )
but I like to do my best in trying to show others there's nothing wrong with anyone liking the same og both sexes :D
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*nod nod*
You might want to talk to your flatmate about that... even if she is really joking about it, if it bothers you, it can cause tensions for you. I've learned from experience if you don't talk about these things early on, it'll be better in the long run, even if it causes tension for a bit.
Before I started University, I started talking to my roommate on facebook, and one of the first things that I told her is that I was bisexual. We talked for a while, and she seemed really nice. A bit closer to when we'd actually meet she sent me the most beautiful letter that I'd ever gotten, and it was to tell me that she wasn't sure if she'd be comfortable with a bisexual roommate. (She had plenty of gay and bisexual friends, but she didn't live with any of them.) When we actually met up, she was perfectly comfortable with me and realized it wasn't going to be a problem. (She moved out by the end October, but it was for other reasons. I stayed up late, she didn't, she had a roommateless friend, etc.)
Haha I grew up with him, so it's normal for me. xD I just didn't get a lot of attention when I was younger. (Did my own thing most of the time...) But yeah, I guess so. I'm usually good at not underestimating him, but he's learned to play stupid and weak so he doesn't have to do things (like chores -- we get sick of how he'll do it wrong on purpose every time and just do it ourselves.)
I doubt he'll care too, but I don't want him to think it's a bad thing, and when he's older possibly realize that there are a lot of different people out there and he shouldn't shut them out just because of that. (He shuts us out enough as it is... no need to give him more excuses to do it! xD)
My family is very open minded too. We haven't really talked about that stuff much at the dinner table aside from gay marriage, and even that is fairly recent since I've become so involved with that community.
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I've mentioned it..but ehhh...IDK, we 'joked' it away. I can live with it - not like it's anyhting new. as long as she doesn't offend anyone else I guess it will be ok
I always find it silly how somepole will imediatly assume that if someone they know is bisexual/gay then they will do nothing but try and get into their pants
it's a stupid mentality - it's like saying all straight guys will fancy any woman..or any straigh woman will fancy any man.
yet so many people still beleive that just because you like the same sex you HAVE to imediatly 'fall in love' with any person you see...idiots if you ask me
I'm the oldest..so I pave the way for my brothers...
as long as you don't see it as bad, and neither does your parents - I'd imagine he won't see it as bad either ^^
it's good to be involved in the comunity - help promote equality and the likes. everyone deserves to be treated well :D
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