Difficult
He called me yesterday, sobbing uncontrollably. He's gotten past the initial realization that he's been wrong about a great many things. He's had time to process the many times he failed to listen and shut other people down. And now the realization sets in that his choices actually hurt other people profoundly. He's reconnecting with his Conscience very suddenly. And he's sobbing because he can't undo what was done.
I am unsure as to which boundaries to set in this context, and that is an unusual place for me to be. So far, the only boundary set is that I will not help him repair his relationship with the Cow. But he wants to process the unresolved differences with me. Can that be done without any mention of the Cow? I'm thinking perhaps not, because she is one of those unresolved differences. But some processing would be helpful. Not sure where this particular line should go.
--Randir
I am unsure as to which boundaries to set in this context, and that is an unusual place for me to be. So far, the only boundary set is that I will not help him repair his relationship with the Cow. But he wants to process the unresolved differences with me. Can that be done without any mention of the Cow? I'm thinking perhaps not, because she is one of those unresolved differences. But some processing would be helpful. Not sure where this particular line should go.
--Randir