Ending intentional silence...
Today is D-day. Divorce day, that is. As of approximately 1 hour ago, am legally divorced. I have not been writing recently because there were simply too many things that I would/could have written about that would have been in appropriate to have in the public domain, as I'm sure any of you that have ever been through any legal process can understand. It is my hope and intent to catch you all up on the significant events in my life that continue to have relevance.
I do want to take this opportunity to thank everyone for their unconditional support, honesty, advice, caring and (periodically necessary) kicks in the ass. Those are all true signs of friendship. Thank you. I hope that I am able to provide the same for you in any future time of need you may have.
The feeling is oddly emotionally empty. There are dreams that I thought were gone and forgotten, but were not that had their final death knell tolled, there is excitement about the future, there is relief over the completion of the process without the use of lawyers and many other mixed up emotions that I have yet to identify. It's quite confusing when I expected being very excited. I guess there is also the component that while this should provide a degree of closure, there is still a lot of paperwork to be done to complete the process (changing names on accounts, etc) not to mention the heavy feeling of 16 more years of parental interaction. Those of you who know me well, know that the way my brain works is to come to acceptable closure, keep the lessons, throw out the rest and move on. In this case, I won't be able to do that to a reasonable degree for another 16 years... longer than I've known any of you.
I'll save the other happy news for another post so as not to confuse my current feelings. So with that, I'll end with my ever present statistics...
I believe that among all of the readers of this journal, I hold the following records...
- Most divorces (2)
- Most divorces without lawyers (2)
- Most homes owned (3)
- Most marriages (tie-2)
- Most children (tie-2.5 -- Jynx is pregnant with #3, and Linda's son fairly counts as .5)
What a distinction, huh? ;)
I do want to take this opportunity to thank everyone for their unconditional support, honesty, advice, caring and (periodically necessary) kicks in the ass. Those are all true signs of friendship. Thank you. I hope that I am able to provide the same for you in any future time of need you may have.
The feeling is oddly emotionally empty. There are dreams that I thought were gone and forgotten, but were not that had their final death knell tolled, there is excitement about the future, there is relief over the completion of the process without the use of lawyers and many other mixed up emotions that I have yet to identify. It's quite confusing when I expected being very excited. I guess there is also the component that while this should provide a degree of closure, there is still a lot of paperwork to be done to complete the process (changing names on accounts, etc) not to mention the heavy feeling of 16 more years of parental interaction. Those of you who know me well, know that the way my brain works is to come to acceptable closure, keep the lessons, throw out the rest and move on. In this case, I won't be able to do that to a reasonable degree for another 16 years... longer than I've known any of you.
I'll save the other happy news for another post so as not to confuse my current feelings. So with that, I'll end with my ever present statistics...
I believe that among all of the readers of this journal, I hold the following records...
- Most divorces (2)
- Most divorces without lawyers (2)
- Most homes owned (3)
- Most marriages (tie-2)
- Most children (tie-2.5 -- Jynx is pregnant with #3, and Linda's son fairly counts as .5)
What a distinction, huh? ;)