Childcare, childhood, childfree

[rainsinger]

Yesterday some weird insane guy was hanging around in front of my office and heckling me, and I was talking about it with Z later, saying about feeling unsafe and scared and he’s suggested I carry my didgeridoo around for protection

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[hollowfulofhat]

Oh, how I wish there could be less stigma attached to being child-free by choice. I totally agree with you about the ideal of children being born only to people who really want them, are prepared for the responsibility, and can support them properly.

I couldn't have hoped for a happier childhood or a more stable, loving family. Yet I have always known that I don't want kids. I have no idea how to communicate with children, find them intensely irritating, and have always preferred the company of adults (even when I was little). I'm too selfish to make the necessary sacrifices to be a parent, although it has been pointed out to me that it's just as selfish to want kids - after all, children don't ask to be born.

It makes me so sad to see how my (female) friends' lives change when they have children, how their horizons become so much more limited. But then I suppose I need to realize that, even though it wouldn't be the right choice for me, it may well be the right choice for them and I should be glad that it's not just 16-year-olds who are bringing up the next generation.

When I get too down about it, I do find that this generally helps. ;-)

Oh, and I could say this after each one of your posts (and should say it more often): to think that you are writing all of these marvellously thought-provoking things in your second language is truly amazing. x