Childcare, childhood, childfree

[rainsinger]

Yesterday some weird insane guy was hanging around in front of my office and heckling me, and I was talking about it with Z later, saying about feeling unsafe and scared and he’s suggested I carry my didgeridoo around for protection

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[actually_not]

i have the same ambivalence about children. on the one hand i relate to them very well on a short term playing/learning basis but on the other, like you i find them such a strain after a while and i can't imagine not being able to go off and hide and rest and sleep somewhere alone...to recharge.

so part of me thinks i'd be a good mum...up to the point where i wanted to throw them out the window just to shut them up...not so good!

also i fear i am now too selfish and set in my ways...i don't feel my life is lacking for want of a child. i'm happy with my partner and my friends and the life that we lead. i enjoy spending short burst of time with other peoples' kids but that's enough.

strangely i was speaking to BQ about this recently...she has decided that she definitely does want a baby very soon and her reasons were that it will make her and her gf a 'proper family' and that she is 'ready for the responsibility of raising a child'....neither of which sounded like particularly great reasons for binding a small and vulnerable human being to yourself...