Bad & some good news from friends...
BAD:I talked with Kristin today and was going to ask her how the military ball went that she and Rick went to last weekend. Didn't get to ask her. She sounded like crap so I asked what was wrong. She said she was going to have to figure out a way for her and the kids to be able to fly back to OH and the first thing that I thought was that she and R weren't getting along, but no. Her father just died this morning. He had pneumonia and they said his heart gave out (he had also been sick prior). I immediately began to cry, not because I know her father, I've never met him, but just for how she must feel and hurt and she said she's going to go to FL afterwards to spread his ashes per his wishes. I can just see this being a big problem for her family as far as the estate and everything (in addition to losing him of course). I just that there is no arguing and that everything works out the way he would have wanted.
BAD: Then I talked with my gf Alicia who lives in IN. I had spoken with her Tuesday, after her daughter's appt with the pediatric neurologist in Indianapolis (they live 2 hrs north of Indy) and the neurologist had told her then that the two seizures that her oldest daughter (10 years) had had last week were due to Rolandic epilepsy. This is a disorder that's not a huge problem. Kids usually outgrow it by age 15 and they happen while they are either in sleep (as both of hers did) or while they're waking up so don't typically pose a huge threat as far as getting hurt during them. However, to be certain, he had her sleep deprive her daughter (necessary, not because he's mean) all Tuesday night and return Wednesday morning for an EEG. Turns out, it's full blown epilepsy. Not curable. Not something she'll outgrow. She called me to tell me and she was on her way home from the pharmacy with the medication that her daughter will probably be dependant upon for the rest of her life. She will never be able to bathe alone or eat alone. Alicia was just very shaken up by the news, especially I'm sure after having 2 days to get used to a diagnosis of something she'll outgrow, you know? She hadn't yet told her daughter the news, I will talk to her in the next couple of days to find out how she took it. Alicia said she's worried about her being embarrassed about it if she were to have one at school in front of everyone as when she had the first she lost bladder control and everything. Poor thing.
BAD and GOOD: I also have a gf that I hadn't spoken to in over a year that I've spoken with three times in the last three days now and I've loved catching up, even if there are some really sad things to update each other on. We grew up next door to each other. I was 4 I think and she was 3 when she moved in next door and then we moved when I was 13 but we continued to keep in touch off and on (when she wasn't in foster homes and half-way homes). Her mother has never been there for her as she was drug addicted from the time I met her until just recently I suppose, though I'm not really sure about all of the years after we moved. Well, this past October her mother attempted suicide the evening that her mother's brother DID commit suicide. She was admitted to a hospital and since that has apparently received treatment and is back on her feet and is back in my friend's life. My gf said that her mother is *finally* being the mother to her that she wanted all those years, and she's also being the grandmother to her 6 yr old daughter as well, which she's thrilled about. Well, two weeks after her mom's incident, her step-mom who was there for her more than her mother ever was, and who tried to keep positive regarding my gf's mom, died of cancer. It was a real blow for her and she's still having a hard time with it, though I'm sure that having her mom there for her has helped to ease that pain some. She and her husband also forclosed on their home a year ago and have just been having some real hard times (like what Jon and I are going through now with not being able to get work). She was still so upbeat and positive and was telling me that we are the lucky ones, we are still healthy, our kids are healthy, we still have choices, etc. It was just really nice to talk with her and see this girl that's been through so much in her short life have such an upbeat attitude towards life and people was great.
BAD: Then I talked with my gf Alicia who lives in IN. I had spoken with her Tuesday, after her daughter's appt with the pediatric neurologist in Indianapolis (they live 2 hrs north of Indy) and the neurologist had told her then that the two seizures that her oldest daughter (10 years) had had last week were due to Rolandic epilepsy. This is a disorder that's not a huge problem. Kids usually outgrow it by age 15 and they happen while they are either in sleep (as both of hers did) or while they're waking up so don't typically pose a huge threat as far as getting hurt during them. However, to be certain, he had her sleep deprive her daughter (necessary, not because he's mean) all Tuesday night and return Wednesday morning for an EEG. Turns out, it's full blown epilepsy. Not curable. Not something she'll outgrow. She called me to tell me and she was on her way home from the pharmacy with the medication that her daughter will probably be dependant upon for the rest of her life. She will never be able to bathe alone or eat alone. Alicia was just very shaken up by the news, especially I'm sure after having 2 days to get used to a diagnosis of something she'll outgrow, you know? She hadn't yet told her daughter the news, I will talk to her in the next couple of days to find out how she took it. Alicia said she's worried about her being embarrassed about it if she were to have one at school in front of everyone as when she had the first she lost bladder control and everything. Poor thing.
BAD and GOOD: I also have a gf that I hadn't spoken to in over a year that I've spoken with three times in the last three days now and I've loved catching up, even if there are some really sad things to update each other on. We grew up next door to each other. I was 4 I think and she was 3 when she moved in next door and then we moved when I was 13 but we continued to keep in touch off and on (when she wasn't in foster homes and half-way homes). Her mother has never been there for her as she was drug addicted from the time I met her until just recently I suppose, though I'm not really sure about all of the years after we moved. Well, this past October her mother attempted suicide the evening that her mother's brother DID commit suicide. She was admitted to a hospital and since that has apparently received treatment and is back on her feet and is back in my friend's life. My gf said that her mother is *finally* being the mother to her that she wanted all those years, and she's also being the grandmother to her 6 yr old daughter as well, which she's thrilled about. Well, two weeks after her mom's incident, her step-mom who was there for her more than her mother ever was, and who tried to keep positive regarding my gf's mom, died of cancer. It was a real blow for her and she's still having a hard time with it, though I'm sure that having her mom there for her has helped to ease that pain some. She and her husband also forclosed on their home a year ago and have just been having some real hard times (like what Jon and I are going through now with not being able to get work). She was still so upbeat and positive and was telling me that we are the lucky ones, we are still healthy, our kids are healthy, we still have choices, etc. It was just really nice to talk with her and see this girl that's been through so much in her short life have such an upbeat attitude towards life and people was great.