I...don't know what I'm supposed to say. I am still angry, and I'm always going to be at least slightly apprehensive with him.
I told you once not to look at him like a victim...and that's exactly what you're doing. I understand that he is your friend, but whatever's happened since the breakup...Dave, it all needed to happen. But I agree, it does need to stop now. Looks to me like he's more or less learnt his lesson. But I don't think we should apologize, shy of blowing him off yesterday.
I did something a bit underhanded and told Vince about Mike's possible departure. Vince said "If he wants to go, let him go, but he can't come back if he does."
*shrugs*
I...I can't say I feel bad for him. Mike, I mean. I hope he's cried because of this. I hope he's cried a lot. I know I have. And furthermore...we can't know if he doesn't say anything. It's really not our fault for not picking up on his unhappiness.
And frankly, I will not accept him "chickening out". I won't. I don't want to hear it from you. I want it from him. Then I'll go to you and have you fill in the blanks he'll undoubtedly leave.
Cowardice is disrespectful.
Not to turn into a stone-cold bitch all of a sudden, but it's all I've got to keep myself from turning my mind to bad places. Like sympathy, remorse...or...other...things that I've worked very hard to cast out of my head.
And I really don't think anything he could possibly say to me will make me happy. Grimly satisfied, perhaps, but even some magical turn of events would really only bring me down.
I told you once not to look at him like a victim...and that's exactly what you're doing. I understand that he is your friend, but whatever's happened since the breakup...Dave, it all needed to happen. But I agree, it does need to stop now. Looks to me like he's more or less learnt his lesson. But I don't think we should apologize, shy of blowing him off yesterday.
I did something a bit underhanded and told Vince about Mike's possible departure. Vince said "If he wants to go, let him go, but he can't come back if he does."
*shrugs*
I...I can't say I feel bad for him. Mike, I mean. I hope he's cried because of this. I hope he's cried a lot. I know I have. And furthermore...we can't know if he doesn't say anything. It's really not our fault for not picking up on his unhappiness.
And frankly, I will not accept him "chickening out". I won't. I don't want to hear it from you. I want it from him. Then I'll go to you and have you fill in the blanks he'll undoubtedly leave.
Cowardice is disrespectful.
Not to turn into a stone-cold bitch all of a sudden, but it's all I've got to keep myself from turning my mind to bad places. Like sympathy, remorse...or...other...things that I've worked very hard to cast out of my head.
And I really don't think anything he could possibly say to me will make me happy. Grimly satisfied, perhaps, but even some magical turn of events would really only bring me down.
Sorry that was so long.
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You tell him it has to be face to face or it won't mean a goddamn thing. When he tries to make an excuse about not having time, tell him to make time.
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