Anyway, the reason I'm thinking about this is that I want to be a mother. I want to be a mother so badly that if I hit thirty or thirty-five and there's no man in sight, I may choose to adopt a couple of kids and raise them on my own. I want to be a mother that badly.
I don't believe in a gay gene, but I don't believe homosexuality is a conscious, deliberate choice. I think it's a developmental issue stemming from a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Some research has shown that one of the common factors in homosexuality (at least for boys) is a poor or nonexistent relationship with a father figure. This is probably not universal, but I think there's something significant to it.
Believing that, I have to acknowledge that if I, as a single woman, adopt a little boy, there is a possibility that the lack of a father figure in his life could be a factor that influences him toward homosexuality. I'm not going to say that it's a deciding factor, that a boy without a father will definitely be gay (that's clearly not true) or that all gays have poor relationships with their fathers (there's not enough data to be conclusive about that, and I'm understandably hesitant to make a blanket statement about an entire group of people). But I have to acknowledge the possibility.
So anyway, yeah. I'm thinking a lot about that at the moment...
I don't believe in a gay gene, but I don't believe homosexuality is a conscious, deliberate choice. I think it's a developmental issue stemming from a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Some research has shown that one of the common factors in homosexuality (at least for boys) is a poor or nonexistent relationship with a father figure. This is probably not universal, but I think there's something significant to it.
Believing that, I have to acknowledge that if I, as a single woman, adopt a little boy, there is a possibility that the lack of a father figure in his life could be a factor that influences him toward homosexuality. I'm not going to say that it's a deciding factor, that a boy without a father will definitely be gay (that's clearly not true) or that all gays have poor relationships with their fathers (there's not enough data to be conclusive about that, and I'm understandably hesitant to make a blanket statement about an entire group of people). But I have to acknowledge the possibility.
So anyway, yeah. I'm thinking a lot about that at the moment...
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So adopt girls ;)
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