Further notes to self; On falling for someone:
Romance is not dead, but it is not our primary concern. When falling for someone an evaluation of one's choices is immediately given. Now is the time to remember the intense political nature of relationships. Not just for your sake, as it is irresponsible and greedy to pursue a relationship with someone based on an ideological standpoint alone. Love is intangible. This is proved by it's meaninglessness when defined. Setting up expectations, social constraints and freedoms, agreements and shall we say "Personal Domestic (See: sexual) Policy" based on flimsy ideology is bound to fail (See: Historical failures to separate church and state, repercussions of).
What are we left with then? Desire. Perfectly natural, and best left unsullied by judgments of 'good' and 'bad'. The intent which desire stimulates is generally 'good'. (See: Best laid plans of mice and men, any free trade agreement with America). Desire and it's offspring Intent are our catalysts. Their development instigates our next point of consideration. Reality...
Oh to hell with it. My point was basically: No one is 'No matinence', and that the unconcious role a woman takes on shaping the characteristics of her mate needs to be accepted as 'the only game in town'. That being the case it's important to consider whether the object of my affections is actually capable of that under current circumstances.
I'd like to finish off with some kind of flourish but really isn't it enough that I just talked myself out of falling head over heels? Twenty year old males arn't meant to be able to do that.
What are we left with then? Desire. Perfectly natural, and best left unsullied by judgments of 'good' and 'bad'. The intent which desire stimulates is generally 'good'. (See: Best laid plans of mice and men, any free trade agreement with America). Desire and it's offspring Intent are our catalysts. Their development instigates our next point of consideration. Reality...
Oh to hell with it. My point was basically: No one is 'No matinence', and that the unconcious role a woman takes on shaping the characteristics of her mate needs to be accepted as 'the only game in town'. That being the case it's important to consider whether the object of my affections is actually capable of that under current circumstances.
I'd like to finish off with some kind of flourish but really isn't it enough that I just talked myself out of falling head over heels? Twenty year old males arn't meant to be able to do that.