live and let live. for real. i'm serious.

May 05, 2008 22:38

when i was a teenager, i was really a judgemental bitch. i thought it was my way or you could go eff yourself ( Read more... )

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hyyperactive3 May 6 2008, 08:16:08 UTC
at my work, which is a juvenile treatment center for male sex offenders ages 10-17, i constantly blame sex education on the world's problems. i work with, sad to say it, about 9 guys whose mom's should have had abortions but didn't. as a result of thier mom's choice, they were severely beaten, burned, tortured, sexually abused, raped, neglected, and had thier wires crossed. as a result of this horrific abuse, most of them acted out and sexually abused a sibling or peer. now they are thier victims are going to have sexual deviant issues for thier entire lives. just because someone gets pregnant doesn't mean they should have a kid. i completely agree with you.

on another note, you HAVE to read The Kid by Dan Savage. He is the editor for the Stranger, that magazine in Seattle. This guy writes amazing books full of satire and humor, but The Kid is the story of him and his boyfriend going through the adoption process to get thier son. It is amazing and beautiful. You would love it.

I miss you!

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vlk40 May 6 2008, 13:53:45 UTC
As a child it was constantly pounded into my head that being gay was a terrible sin. So it became a subject of heated debate between hubby and I. But then I started to think, why would God punish someone who was born gay? I know for a fact that many people are born homosexual, just as I was born heterosexual. When I was in grade school, I had a male friend who I knew was different from the start- even though I had never heard the term "gay". And he is the nicest guy, but he is punished because of his sexuality. And I always wondered why God would create, or allow someone to feel that way from birth, only to punish him for it. That would be like me trying to change my sexual preference that I have ALWAYS had ( ... )

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dianaingeborg May 6 2008, 16:01:54 UTC
God does not make mistakes, people are gay for a reason I believe and no more sinful in themselves then heterosexuals. The sex drive can be used for good or evil but that goes for all orientations. I don't believe anyone should have casual sex but that sex in the concept of a loving long term relationship is good.

my dad actually asked me if I thought that came from his Indian sidethis make me so angry I could spit ( ... )

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vlk40 May 6 2008, 19:54:02 UTC
Hi Diana! :D Just got back from Ashley's last track meet, and boy is it warm out today!! Sunburn city ( ... )

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dianaingeborg May 8 2008, 17:43:45 UTC
in a loving relationship it can be really beautiful
:DDDDDD

does it with eggs and milk is really no problem even with growing children, peanut butter and milk goes a long way to meeting protein needs, with that and maybe eggs for breakfast 2-3 days a week, easypeasy. there might be some mineral issues but a cheap multi supplement will cover it, I think. Do you have access to a library? mine has lots of books and almost all discuss diet needs.

try it a few meals a week and see how they take to it, they may surprise you. Today for dinner we had home made pizza with olives, feta, mushrooms and cheese. yummyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

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dianaingeborg May 6 2008, 15:48:29 UTC
I too believe that people are born with their sexual orientation, I do pity them but for very different reasons then some, they are met with judgment and disrespect wherever they go for something that they have no control over.

I have hear that the Jewish faith is very accepting of a woman's need at times to have an abortion, I, personally believe that life is sacred from conception but I do not in any way judge others that make another choice, who am I to judge? have I walked in their shoes? lived their lives? no and therefore do not judge.

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southhavenjen May 6 2008, 16:41:38 UTC
The judgemental thing drives me crazy, too. I was raised very strict Baptist, so you can imagine there was a lot of judgement going on in my house as I was growing up. My mom especially is still this way, my dad is a bit more open-minded, at least politically, but is still pretty old-school judgemental about gays, people of other races, etc. It makes me sad ( ... )

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vlk40 May 6 2008, 20:05:06 UTC
Wow- this is EXACTLY how I feel!!!!!!! I have stepped back in the last year and I am totally dumbfounded at the things I just blindly accepted to be the truth because my church said it was so. We were taught to never question anything- to just have faith that this is the absolute truth- and that others were wrong. And then the fighting that goes on between churches. Oh, I was so bad because I married a catholic, and my hubby kind of messed up since he didn't marry a catholic girl. The fighting that has gone on for 16 years in my marriage over religion- we almost divorced because of it. And i still have my parents trying to pound "the truth" into my head and my kid's heads. But hubby and I are very open with them, so they know how we feel about my parents beliefs. I believe God is all about love. About love, and acceptance and forgiveness, and helping others that need help. Not about judgment, and superiority, etc... Hubby and I are liberal, and parents are very conservative- so boy oh boy I messed up. A catholic liberal ( ... )

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eamaneimmortal May 6 2008, 22:23:02 UTC
I don't think you got the reason of why I posted that quote. I wasn't saying whether or not I believed it. I posted it for thinking purposes. I saw it, and I had this awful urge to laugh. Not an amused laughter... it was one of those things that made me think. I wasn't sure how I felt about that quote. I don't know if I'm even explaining this in a way that makes sense. Nevermind. Suffice it to say, you got my purpose wrong. And I do know one person who had an abortion. And in her case, I think she does feel like the mother to a dead baby. She keeps the ultrasound and cries about it. I don't think her husband realizes what he asked her to do. I was there for her.

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quixoticgirl May 7 2008, 03:43:27 UTC
it wasn't you, it was kathie who reposted it that made me angry. i know you just posted it as food for thought. she took it and ran. but i think kathie is a total idiot anyway. she told me she was trying to find a nanny for her four kids... who would work for free. her reasoning? "well i figure i take care of them for free, so somebody else should be willing to..." i mean, what? who the hell is gonna volunteer to take care of her four kids?

anyway, it wasn't aimed at you, honestly. it was aimed at people who say shit like that and mean it to be hurtful. if i had issue with you, i know i could just say it to you straight but with people like kathie... they'll just never get it.

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eamaneimmortal May 8 2008, 04:26:03 UTC
"well i figure i take care of them for free, so somebody else should be willing to..."

Seriously?? Why would anyone take care of someone else's four kids for FREE all the time?? Of course SHE does it for free. They are her kids. If it was too much for her, why did she have them? Nannies are nice if you can afford them, but if you can't don't expect one to volunteer to do their job for free. How would they eat?

Ok. How is Josh by the way?

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quixoticgirl May 8 2008, 04:29:22 UTC
exactly! see, she's an idiot. she also believes that giving her kids crystal light is a healthy beverage option. fake sugar is way worse for them than real sugar could ever be. she's a dipshit. i'm sorry. how do you know her anyway??

josh is all right. they're keeping him another night. so i'm lonely and sad. i haven't slept without him for at least a year. :(

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