live and let live. for real. i'm serious.
when i was a teenager, i was really a judgemental bitch. i thought it was my way or you could go eff yourself.
but then i realized that my opinion isn't the center of the universe and the only person who really gives a crap about my opinion is me.
that being said, it just burns me up now when people get on others for being different. being "more" this or "more" that, like the people who bitch and moan about it if someone who eats a vegan diet wears leather shoes. or if a mom breastfeeds but puts her child in disposable diapers.
but what i really can't freaking stand is trying to make someone feel bad about their extremely personal choices. it's a fine line i'm walking here, because it's kind of hypocritical to say to each their own and then rant about people who spout their opinions in public arenas.
but damn. i just hate it when people talk about homosexuals like they're the bane of the earth because they're "sinning." or when they bash on women because they've gotten an abortion.
abortion is a very personal and heart-wrenching decision to most women. i have never personally had one, but i know a handful who have. and i would never wish a decision like that on someone. but there are reasons that this decision is made thousands of times a day. it has a lot to do with women who know their own mind. they know they either can't handle a baby, or can't have a baby because of their health. they know the baby was conceived under horrible circumstances. they know the baby will probably be thrust into the system and possibly end up horribly mistreated. whatever the reason a woman chooses this, it is her own decision. i think it's a sad decision to make, but i think it's also sad when scared pregnant women have their babies and leave them in the trash. or surrender them at a hospital and the baby ends up wondering why their mom wouldn't keep them. or the baby gets adopted by someone who doesn't treat the baby like they should.
all these things happen every day. i can say i would much rather a woman have an abortion than subject her child to a world when they know they won't love them or take care of them. my heart aches for these unborn babies, but i would never tell a woman she's wrong for choosing an abortion.
i have a policy that i try to adhere to these days. i really try very hard not to stick my nose in this kind of business because it's none of my business.
that being said, i swear to god. this quote pissed me off so much i saw red:
"Abortion doesn't make you "un"-pregnant. It makes you the mother of a dead baby."
Abortion does exactly that. It makes your body not pregnant anymore. There's no way you can dispute that.
And I see a mother as a woman who has chosen to have and raise her baby. If, like me, that baby was born and then died, well the intention was still there. I will always be Jonah's mother. I am the mother of a dead baby, not a woman who got an abortion when she was 2 months pregnant. That woman didn't want to be or couldn't be a mother to that child. She forfeits her right to be a mother of that child.
I can say "oh, she should have the baby. there are so many people out there who would want to love and raise the baby." but it's not their decision. it's the choice of the woman carrying the baby.
jewish law is in favor of the mother. i tend to agree. i cannot abide the people who would force a woman to endure an unwanted pregnancy and childbirth of a child they know they do not want. or worse, to endure a pregnancy that may end up harming their personal health or even kill them.
so i just wish people would shut their freaking judgemental mouths and leave these poor women alone. you have not walked a mile in their shoes, and you do not know them. you have no right to judge someone or renounce their actions as sins just because you believe you know better. YOU ARE NOT BETTER THAN THEM. period. i'm sick of this. so sick. the whole "i have gay friends but my god says it's a sin so i know they are sinners" line kills me every time. how can you be friends with someone when you personally believe they are horrible and that they are going to hell when they die? and how can you judge a poor woman you don't know for a decision she made regarding her own life and body?
grrr. why doesn't everyone just keep their noses out of everyone else's business unless or until they are invited in?
life is precious and it's a gift. so just live yours and let everyone else live theirs.
end of rant. even though i'm still steamed.
but then i realized that my opinion isn't the center of the universe and the only person who really gives a crap about my opinion is me.
that being said, it just burns me up now when people get on others for being different. being "more" this or "more" that, like the people who bitch and moan about it if someone who eats a vegan diet wears leather shoes. or if a mom breastfeeds but puts her child in disposable diapers.
but what i really can't freaking stand is trying to make someone feel bad about their extremely personal choices. it's a fine line i'm walking here, because it's kind of hypocritical to say to each their own and then rant about people who spout their opinions in public arenas.
but damn. i just hate it when people talk about homosexuals like they're the bane of the earth because they're "sinning." or when they bash on women because they've gotten an abortion.
abortion is a very personal and heart-wrenching decision to most women. i have never personally had one, but i know a handful who have. and i would never wish a decision like that on someone. but there are reasons that this decision is made thousands of times a day. it has a lot to do with women who know their own mind. they know they either can't handle a baby, or can't have a baby because of their health. they know the baby was conceived under horrible circumstances. they know the baby will probably be thrust into the system and possibly end up horribly mistreated. whatever the reason a woman chooses this, it is her own decision. i think it's a sad decision to make, but i think it's also sad when scared pregnant women have their babies and leave them in the trash. or surrender them at a hospital and the baby ends up wondering why their mom wouldn't keep them. or the baby gets adopted by someone who doesn't treat the baby like they should.
all these things happen every day. i can say i would much rather a woman have an abortion than subject her child to a world when they know they won't love them or take care of them. my heart aches for these unborn babies, but i would never tell a woman she's wrong for choosing an abortion.
i have a policy that i try to adhere to these days. i really try very hard not to stick my nose in this kind of business because it's none of my business.
that being said, i swear to god. this quote pissed me off so much i saw red:
"Abortion doesn't make you "un"-pregnant. It makes you the mother of a dead baby."
Abortion does exactly that. It makes your body not pregnant anymore. There's no way you can dispute that.
And I see a mother as a woman who has chosen to have and raise her baby. If, like me, that baby was born and then died, well the intention was still there. I will always be Jonah's mother. I am the mother of a dead baby, not a woman who got an abortion when she was 2 months pregnant. That woman didn't want to be or couldn't be a mother to that child. She forfeits her right to be a mother of that child.
I can say "oh, she should have the baby. there are so many people out there who would want to love and raise the baby." but it's not their decision. it's the choice of the woman carrying the baby.
jewish law is in favor of the mother. i tend to agree. i cannot abide the people who would force a woman to endure an unwanted pregnancy and childbirth of a child they know they do not want. or worse, to endure a pregnancy that may end up harming their personal health or even kill them.
so i just wish people would shut their freaking judgemental mouths and leave these poor women alone. you have not walked a mile in their shoes, and you do not know them. you have no right to judge someone or renounce their actions as sins just because you believe you know better. YOU ARE NOT BETTER THAN THEM. period. i'm sick of this. so sick. the whole "i have gay friends but my god says it's a sin so i know they are sinners" line kills me every time. how can you be friends with someone when you personally believe they are horrible and that they are going to hell when they die? and how can you judge a poor woman you don't know for a decision she made regarding her own life and body?
grrr. why doesn't everyone just keep their noses out of everyone else's business unless or until they are invited in?
life is precious and it's a gift. so just live yours and let everyone else live theirs.
end of rant. even though i'm still steamed.