can we skip to the comfortable part?

Sep 22, 2013 10:08

Last night I made an OKCupid account while watching North & South--singularly most pathetic thing I've ever done? I don't know ( Read more... )

adventures in lurve, do i really need a real life tag?

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dodger_sister September 22 2013, 23:49:07 UTC
Also the only pic I want to upload is one of me lifting a giant hammer with a gleeful crazy face. Which might give the ~wrong idea~

You should upload that picture, because I think it sends the BEST MESSAGE EVER and then you will only get messaged by the exact kind of guy you want anyways - the kind of guy who looks at that pic and thinks, "That Chick is Awesome!"

As for online dating, I have been encouraged to try it but I never had because Reasons (it feels very vunerable to me to meet up with a strange man when I can't even walk properly without assistance as well as then like, do I be upfront about the disability and scare guys off from even contacting me or wait until we meet in person and then they'll be like O_0) but also, let's face it, I don't have the time or energy for a 'relationship'. I just want a pool boy. ;) But you should look at it this way (the way I am currently looking at my new Tumblr account - yeah, I have a Tumblr now) you don't HAVE to do anything with it. Try it when you feel like it, leave it sitting when you don't, abandon it if it doesn't work out, there shouldn't be any pressure!

/KISSES FOR YOUR GLEEFUL CRAZY FACE/

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queenklu September 23 2013, 07:19:47 UTC
Lolol, HOPEFULLY they'd think "that chick is awesome" and not "that chick enjoys hitting people with hammers oh baby i'm into THAT." Fingers crossed, if I get up the courage to upload it!

Oh bb, anyone who's scared off by your disability is a DICKWAD and you don't want to date them anyway! YOU ARE AWESOME. Also I'm pretty sure OKCupid has a pool boy option, if you answer the right questions ;33

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dodger_sister September 23 2013, 21:28:08 UTC
Lolol, HOPEFULLY they'd think "that chick is awesome" and not "that chick enjoys hitting people with hammers oh baby i'm into THAT."

LOL OMG. YEAH.

Oh bb, anyone who's scared off by your disability is a DICKWAD and you don't want to date them anyway! YOU ARE AWESOME.

Awww, thank you, bb. I know that logically, but you can't even imagine how unseriously people take me in the romantic light. Flirting is my default setting and The BFF told me once that there is no subtext to my subtext, that I don't know how to be anything but blatant when I flirt. And yet, everyone always chuckles and tells me I am hilarious or so cute/adorable when I flirt with them, and they walk away, and no one ever takes me seriously because their default setting is to not equate 'disabled' with 'sex drive'. It's not even on purpose I am sure, it's just people's brains are literally molded to think that way subconsciously or something, I think. IDEK, but it gets frustrating.

I'm with you on the theme of this post - why is dating so hard?

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