ugh this entire last week

[queenklu]

• subbing 4 days straight at my old high school, in awkward limbo between "former student we feel obligated to talk to" and "substitute teacher so one step above scum of the earth." bleeeegh
• also you know that thing we do where we puff up our favorite teachers in our heads? why do we do the thing
• this one student announced that his mom had kicked him

Comments

[dodger_sister]

OMG, that thing with that kid telling you that! I kind of want to strangle that kid a little. Some people actually have mothers who do that shit, thank you very much, you little shit.

However, YOU DID ABSOLUTELY THE RIGHT THING REPORTING IT!!! I know how nerve-wracking that can be, I've been there, but I am so glad to hear that it actually got looked into after you reported it. (and maybe that will teach that kid that there are consequences to the things he says.) In all of the places I worked, in child care, the procedure was always to report suspected cases of abuse to the boss and then she would call Social Services (at which point you may end up getting interviewed? idek) I brought about 4 cases to my boss over the course of my different jobs and they were NEVER reported to Social Services. Never. I was a teenager/early twenties at the time and I didn't know what to do, I followed protocol. But it has NEVER sat well with me that nothing was ever done. Now, in my thirties, I would be confident enough to follow up with my boss and if no action was taken, I would make that report myself to SS, but back then I just did what we were trained to do and I hated that my bosses never did anything for these kid (one of them in particular that will always haunt me). My point is: YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, NO MATTER HOW HARD IT WAS, BECAUSE NOT SAYING ANYTHING IS SO MUCH WORSE. I OFFER YOU HEARTY HUGS, MY DEAR!

[queenklu]

It was driving me CRAZY wondering why the fuck I didn't report it right away and all I can think of is that it's some mix of my-old-high-school psychological terror and subconsciously knowing this kid is a lying little twerp.

That is so...frustrating and scary, holy shit bb, I'm so sorry you had to deal with that--and more than once! DD: *HUGS* *SO MANY HUGS*

[dodger_sister]

It was driving me CRAZY wondering why the fuck I didn't report it right away and all I can think of is that it's some mix of my-old-high-school psychological terror and subconsciously knowing this kid is a lying little twerp.

You know, I always took at least a day to report these things too and maybe I shouldn't have but I just needed a minute to wrap my head around it, psych myself up into talking to my boss, wanting to be sure I heard what I heard or saw what I saw, if I could have a talk with the kid to see what else I could find out. I think that's natural - and the important thing is you DID report it and try to get something done for this kid. It seems like a no-brainer and yet, I saw so many people NOT report things they should have that it blew my mind.

That is so...frustrating and scary, holy shit bb, I'm so sorry you had to deal with that--and more than once! DD: *HUGS* *SO MANY HUGS*

There was a fleeting moment where I thought I might want to go into social work, work for children's services and then I had to report my first abuse case and I was like, "Yeah, NO THANKS." You feel so utterly helpless and I did not want to be there again. (inevitable when you work with kids though, you will be there again at some point.)