One More Note on The Erotic
I've known for years that for me the erotic wasn't necessarily connected to the sexual, but after my intensely sexually erotic year with L&L and the lack of non-sexual erotic contact with others during that time, I lost track of that knowledge.
As I wrote in my last post, I've been aching for erotic connection -- but I've been extremely reluctant to risk exposing my romantic and sexual selves to anyone new. I'm afraid that the experiences won't be able to measure up to what I've lost, and that actual exposure of those still-bruised parts of myself will surface new waves of grief in really awkward, painful situations.
But venturing into the erotic while consciously separating it from the romantic and the sexual enables new kinds of healing to take place, as well as being fun and self-nurturing in a range of other ways.
As I wrote in my last post, I've been aching for erotic connection -- but I've been extremely reluctant to risk exposing my romantic and sexual selves to anyone new. I'm afraid that the experiences won't be able to measure up to what I've lost, and that actual exposure of those still-bruised parts of myself will surface new waves of grief in really awkward, painful situations.
But venturing into the erotic while consciously separating it from the romantic and the sexual enables new kinds of healing to take place, as well as being fun and self-nurturing in a range of other ways.