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purerandomness

We named the plum-sized bean...

Sep 20, 2010 10:26

We called Ben 'B.P' during pregnancy for 'Baby P' and it just happened to work out as his initials after birth. Jake decided that we'd call this one "Little Bee", mostly because he was sending an email to family and signed the end as 'J., L., B., & b.' I think it's cute.

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baby blabber, pregnancy, benjamin

Comments 16

athinker September 20 2010, 14:36:43 UTC

I think a doll could totally work. Owen has a Cabbage Patch Kid that he loves and it is adorable to watch him play with it. The first time he got it out he hugged it, kissed it, and took it over to play toys with him.

purerandomness September 20 2010, 15:51:21 UTC

Ooh a cabbage patch doll might be perfect! I love how they (used to, at least) come with adoption certificates and names and everything :)
Ben hugs and loves his stuffed bears a lot, so a doll might be the way to go.

athinker September 20 2010, 19:03:56 UTC

One of my friends' husband still has the homemade Cabbage Patch Kid his mom made him when he was 5. It is Mr. T, I kid you not. It is hilarious and adorable at the same time.

lynda September 20 2010, 15:20:56 UTC

We didn't do anything like that for Elias, but I don't see anything wrong with dolls for boys. Elias LOVES to change babydoll clothes and play pretend as much as a girl.

purerandomness September 20 2010, 15:52:19 UTC

I don't think there's anything wrong with dolls for boys either, but it's a gender stereotype that I know is deeply ingrained in both sides of the family. Like, I'm sure we'd get the comment eventually 'You got him a doll?!? Why didn't you just get him something normal, like a football?'

lynda September 20 2010, 16:22:14 UTC

I've gotten some comments like that from family before on how we're raising the boys. It's something I let roll off my back unless they dwell on it or start making comments about it to the boys themselves. I have HUGE problems with gender sterotyping and I want my boys to know that their family, of all people, will support them in any of their life choices. So I make it clear to the family that if they're going to make "gay jokes" about my kids that their time with them in the future will be very limited. I actually had to have a serious conversation with my mom about some of the comments she was making in Elias' precense ( ... )

purerandomness September 20 2010, 17:03:11 UTC

I think something special 'just for Ben' at that time will be important for him to know that he is still special and loved even though there's a new person that's taking a lot of time. That's why I want this 'gift' to be something meaningful but something that he will enjoy and want to use/play with.
Lots about our society is whacked-- boys can only play pretend using dump trucks? How many boys actually grow up to be construction workers these days? I'll bet the number of construction workers and the number of stay-at-home dads is getting closer to even.
There's so much that I want to show Ben doesn't have to be the way it is, but it's also overwhelming to think of too! We'll just do the best we can with what we have :) and I think it rocks that Elias has bracelets and a purse.

gracified September 20 2010, 15:44:13 UTC

Go ahead and make him a big brother doll! I think it's just as good for a boy as for a girl. :) Amazing that it's already 13 weeks. He/she will be here in no time!

purerandomness September 20 2010, 15:52:51 UTC

I loved the pattern for your waldorf doll you made for Vera! May have to show my sister, who is the creative whiz in the family and see if she could help me. :)

sxdx September 20 2010, 16:16:18 UTC

I love the doll idea. Maybe you could pass this on?
http://mobile.mothering.com/parenting/real-boys-play-dolls

It's written by a father. I think doll play is important for children of both sexes. I hope the family can get passed it. Olive's first birthday was a Dino theme and she's dressing as Scout Finch for Halloween. My mom finally got over it.

purerandomness September 20 2010, 17:10:45 UTC

I love Mothering! I should really get a subscription. I have a gifted subscription to Parents magazine and half the time I end up throwing the thing across the room in disgust. Loved the article you linked. Will show it to Jake tonight.

Love that Olive's going to be Scout. That's a perfect little costume and probably really easy, too!

izunami September 21 2010, 07:45:02 UTC

I had a dream where you were pregnant with twins. Then again, there were some other really screwed up things in that dream so if you do have twins, I have some questions for my sleeping boyfriend.

purerandomness September 21 2010, 12:16:17 UTC

Oh boy I hope it's not twins! The midwife had a really hard time finding the heartbeat a few weeks ago (like tracked across my belly a couple times) before finally finding one, so I'm pretty certain there's only 1 baby. Still, if there were 2 they could have been lying on top of each other... YIKES

*crossing fingers for just ONE baby*!!