The Times They Are A Changin'

Jun 01, 2005 21:31

This is not an attack on anyones views it is merely an expression of a difference of opnion, so don't get all uppity.

Last night, we had a heated discussion about what else but basically our relationship situation, and i can respect the fact that the excessive public displays of affection have to stop, because as much as i say don't like it, yes, you have to respect the people around you and their wishes. So i will try and make the effort to stop, and i think i can aslong as i make it a concious effort.
That's not really my wavelength tho, i dont mind if people make out of grab or things like that, there is a time and a place for full blown sex, but hey its sex, it love, its nothing that we all havent experienced, and with a little discretion, which i migh lack sometimes, i dont find anything wrong with it, if you want to make out next to me, or grab someone, hey you have the right to do that ans im not going to stop you or feel uncomfortable, because i can understand the sexual drive that makes us do those things sometimes. I've lived the exlosion of pent up sexual energy, i know people have it, and there is nothing wrong with it, it what you are, it human, its natural, and sometimes its love. Yet sometimes we get caught up in what standards we have been taught by family and society that we keep ourselves at bay, when we are ready to explode, and i say why, why hold yourself back. Be yourself, show your passion, wear you heart and colors on your sleeve, use discretion, but dont be dictated to into confoming to a norm.

Last night he mentioned taking a breather from our relationship, because life has put a strain on our relationship, with work, and living situations, and numerous other factors, including friends. There just sometimes isnt enough time for the relationship, there arent the days alone, or the nights of actual restful sleep next to the person you love. Waking up taking a shower together, going out to eat and just having fun for one day together and not running to other obligations or jobs and i really want that and its something i cant have.
I was kind of taken aback when he mentioned taking a break because we all say things for a reason whether he cosidered one or he thought i wanted one, i think it would be a poor decision, because it wouldnt bring us closer it would only tear us apart. We'd spend more time with other people, maybe rekindle friendships long since dead, and there would be the possibility that we would just fall out of love and rely on others for the comfort we found in each other.
I wont let that happen, i wont give up, i would rather accept our fate, not tolerate it, and wait until things got better, no matter how much strife or money i had to spend, to keep our relationship alive. I am a cunning person, meaning i do what is necessary to get the things i want, and i want him more than anything, and whatever it takes to stay together and happy i am willing to go to great lengths to do so as long as i feel the reciprocity in my actions. I would stop i felt he had just given up. But i know him better than that, i know he would not give up on me easily just as i would not on him. I hate word like soul mate, i dont believe that there are people are made for each other, i believe that people have qualities and build a relationship that they find perfect. And i find that the relationship WE have built, not including uncontrollable factors, is a great one, and i could imagine life without it.

I hate the waits in between the times i get to see him, i hate the days when we dont talk or see each other, because he is one of the few outlets i have of me time. Me time is time spending doing the things i love to do. I like to go out, i like go to the smoke shop, i like to sit outback and smoke with my dad, but most of all i love spending time with him. That is the ultimate me time, because really nothing else matters even for that short period, and whenever sometimes takes away from that time it is incredibly frustrating. Imagine something taking time away from doing the thing that you love to do most. Wouldnt you be pissed? Just sitting around or just bideing my time until i get to do these things it sucks, because im greedy, i focus on the things in life that make me happy, and thats it, my cares for others, is lessened when i have the opprotunity to do the things i love to do. I know im a stingy bastard, who would seriously consider just bringing myself pleasure at the expense of others. But hey, sometimes we all do it because its the only thing that makes some weeks bearable, knowing that when your done slopping shit and dealing with other people that you get to do the things you love.
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