30-Day Meme - Day 21
Day 21 - Another Moment
In July, actually. My grandmother (my father's mother) passed away last November, and my aunt decided that August this year would be a good time to bury her ashes. My dad was really pressuring me and hubby and Boychild to attend, though I really had no intention of doing so. Several texts were exchanged as I wasn't near a phone at the moment, and I ended up snapping at him that I was sick to death of people assuming that my lack of desire meant that I didn't care, and he - quite fairly, really - said that I always refuse or deny without giving an explanation, so what are people supposed to think?
So I ended up sending him a very long, very drawn-out email, explaining not only why I felt the way I did, but also why I just don't explain in general.
He texted me back a couple hours later with a response I didn't even know I needed. He told me I am the most articulate person he knows, and that he never would have thought of things from my unique angle. He apologized for so blindly trying to force me into something I didn't want just to make himself feel better, and for the coercing done last November when I didn't want to go to the hospital, either.
My dad can be mulish about a great many things, but those response texts remind me that he has the capacity to see someone else's viewpoint, and they show me - very clearly and unabashedly - that he really, truly values what I have to say and how things affect me (or don't, as the case may be). That in itself is a very, very big deal for me.
The 30-Day Meme List
Day 01 - Introduce Yourself
Day 02 - Your First Love
Day 03 - Your Parents
Day 04 - What You Ate Today
Day 05 - Your Definition Of Love
Day 06 - Your Day
Day 07 - Your Best Friend
Day 08 - A Moment
Day 09 - Your Beliefs
Day 10 - What You Wore Today
Day 11 - Your Siblings
Day 12 - What’s In Your Bag
Day 13 - This Week
Day 14 - What You Wore Today
Day 15 - Your Dreams
Day 16 - Your First Kiss
Day 17 - Your Favorite Memory
Day 18 - Your Favorite Birthday
Day 19 - Something You Regret
Day 20 - This Month
Day 21 - Another Moment
Day 22 - Something That Upsets You
Day 23 - Something That Makes You Feel Better
Day 24 - Something That Makes You Cry
Day 25 - A First
Day 26 - Your Fears
Day 27 - Your Favorite Place
Day 28 - Something That You Miss
Day 29 - Your Aspirations
Day 30 - One Last Moment
In July, actually. My grandmother (my father's mother) passed away last November, and my aunt decided that August this year would be a good time to bury her ashes. My dad was really pressuring me and hubby and Boychild to attend, though I really had no intention of doing so. Several texts were exchanged as I wasn't near a phone at the moment, and I ended up snapping at him that I was sick to death of people assuming that my lack of desire meant that I didn't care, and he - quite fairly, really - said that I always refuse or deny without giving an explanation, so what are people supposed to think?
So I ended up sending him a very long, very drawn-out email, explaining not only why I felt the way I did, but also why I just don't explain in general.
He texted me back a couple hours later with a response I didn't even know I needed. He told me I am the most articulate person he knows, and that he never would have thought of things from my unique angle. He apologized for so blindly trying to force me into something I didn't want just to make himself feel better, and for the coercing done last November when I didn't want to go to the hospital, either.
My dad can be mulish about a great many things, but those response texts remind me that he has the capacity to see someone else's viewpoint, and they show me - very clearly and unabashedly - that he really, truly values what I have to say and how things affect me (or don't, as the case may be). That in itself is a very, very big deal for me.
The 30-Day Meme List
Day 01 - Introduce Yourself
Day 02 - Your First Love
Day 03 - Your Parents
Day 04 - What You Ate Today
Day 05 - Your Definition Of Love
Day 06 - Your Day
Day 07 - Your Best Friend
Day 08 - A Moment
Day 09 - Your Beliefs
Day 10 - What You Wore Today
Day 11 - Your Siblings
Day 12 - What’s In Your Bag
Day 13 - This Week
Day 14 - What You Wore Today
Day 15 - Your Dreams
Day 16 - Your First Kiss
Day 17 - Your Favorite Memory
Day 18 - Your Favorite Birthday
Day 19 - Something You Regret
Day 20 - This Month
Day 21 - Another Moment
Day 22 - Something That Upsets You
Day 23 - Something That Makes You Feel Better
Day 24 - Something That Makes You Cry
Day 25 - A First
Day 26 - Your Fears
Day 27 - Your Favorite Place
Day 28 - Something That You Miss
Day 29 - Your Aspirations
Day 30 - One Last Moment