Frustration

Mar 31, 2008 13:08

Anna has so many problems, most of them to do with her health. She probably has diabetes, but hates doctors and needles and so she doesnt want to find out. Her father died of a heart attack at age 38, and she has already had one, but she refuses to go in for regular check-ups. Her family thinks she doesnt have health insurance, but she does. She ( Read more... )

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brujaoscura April 1 2008, 01:00:29 UTC
I know how you mean

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rinkori April 1 2008, 09:14:28 UTC
Have you tried suggesting health stuff as something you could do together? You could cook healthy meals together, or go running together, for example.

It's commendable that you're telling her to go to therapy, but really you can't make someone want to change--they'll only change if they want to. I have the same dynamic with my boyfriend sometimes--he has all this internalized transphobia and shame and I really want him to see a therapist who can help him with it, but he's so stubborn and insists that there isn't a problem. He does the same thing about not wanting to go to the doctor too, even if there's actually a health problem. So I totally feel you on how frustrating that can be, to want to help someone who doesn't want to be helped.

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outofsynch April 1 2008, 21:34:04 UTC
I just want to chime in that it's important to maintain your wants and needs in the face of Anna's life challenges. It worries me when you say you feel bad for feeling sorry for yourself b/c Anna's life is harder ( ... )

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prtyldy April 3 2008, 18:21:48 UTC
hmm, a very good point. unfortunately with me that falls under the "easier said than done" category. I am just one of those people who cant enjoy myself unless those around me are comfortable, and since Anna is so seldom comfortable it is tough for me to relax and enjoy my own life.

that said, you are absolutely correct. I am going to have to learn to put my own needs first at some point, at least if I want to survive this relationship.

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