Eventful weekend
Sometimes it seems as though the more I need to write on here the busier I get, and the longer it takes me to be able to actually do it! Last weekend was eventful in many ways, but before I get into it I wanted to say a great big THANKS! to all the people who have read and commented on my blog. I really want to respond personally to each post, but I probably wont have the time to do it all today.
So diving right in, if you are familiar with my last post, you know that Friday night I had convinced Adam to go to our local drag club with me and a few of our friends. As a few of you had seemed surprized at my taking him out girled up, I do want to clarify that it IS a drag club, and I live in a pretty safe area for that sort of thing, plus Adam is passable except for facial hair, but a dark club hides that pretty well. I have been trying to work Adam into this sort of thing because I know at some point he is going to have to go full time, and I thought it might accellerate things a bit... Well we could argue the intelligence of that approach up and down, but its a moot point, because at the last minute he went androgynous instead. I was very upset, not because he chose not to wear his boobs, but because he was TOTALLY confident up until the moment a friend of one of our friends (who Adam and I both despise) showed up unexpectedly at the pre-party drunk as hell and proceeded to be a colossal bitch to Adam about some stupid perceived slight he had supposedly given her on MySpace... BLAH, long story short it really shook him up and that was that. I could kill the bitch.
But ANYWAY! We did end up having a good time, though we eventually left the drag club because of crappy music and ended up going to a gay bar instead, which I loved because I was able to enjoy dancing without anyone trying to grind up next to me!
More important than anything that happened at the club, however, was the slightly tipsy conversation we had afterwards, and some serious fact finding that took place on Saturday. The subject of the conversation, primarily, was Adam's readiness to start his transformation! He has been putting things off and dodging my attempts to motivate him for months, but he is now ready to get started, so Saturday we did some research on hormones (much of it on partners_of_tg, THANKS EVERYONE!) and discovered that they are not anywhere near as expensive as we thought. We can EASILY afford to even go with the better ones! Now the only real obstacle is the mandatory therapy, which could be off-the-charts expensive, though I dont know much about it. Anyone else know? And while Im asking questions, does anyone know if you have to have the counseling before the hormones, or is the counseling only required before any surgical change?
Adam has gotten a list of doctors from a friend, and is ready to go in and start asking questions (a big step for someone who fears doctors as much as he does)!
So with all this change happily looming, I had an idea about names and pronouns and the like. While I dont yet feel ready to completely switch my pronoun usage, you will all be happy to hear that I am ready to admit that I NEED to be ready! Does that make sense? Now dont be too hard on me! Its a step... I have decided that it will be easier to do if I am already in the habit of referring to Adam "in the feminine" on this blog, and until it becomes habit at least I can erase my mistakes, then I will probably make a lot less mistakes when I start doing it in the rest of my life! I hope this is not a subconscious delay tactic on my part, but it really does make sense to me. So from this sentence forward (unless I screw up) Adam is Anna, and she is my girlfriend!
I want to write more, but I am still technically at work. Again, thanks everyone for all the comments, you have given me so much to think about!
So diving right in, if you are familiar with my last post, you know that Friday night I had convinced Adam to go to our local drag club with me and a few of our friends. As a few of you had seemed surprized at my taking him out girled up, I do want to clarify that it IS a drag club, and I live in a pretty safe area for that sort of thing, plus Adam is passable except for facial hair, but a dark club hides that pretty well. I have been trying to work Adam into this sort of thing because I know at some point he is going to have to go full time, and I thought it might accellerate things a bit... Well we could argue the intelligence of that approach up and down, but its a moot point, because at the last minute he went androgynous instead. I was very upset, not because he chose not to wear his boobs, but because he was TOTALLY confident up until the moment a friend of one of our friends (who Adam and I both despise) showed up unexpectedly at the pre-party drunk as hell and proceeded to be a colossal bitch to Adam about some stupid perceived slight he had supposedly given her on MySpace... BLAH, long story short it really shook him up and that was that. I could kill the bitch.
But ANYWAY! We did end up having a good time, though we eventually left the drag club because of crappy music and ended up going to a gay bar instead, which I loved because I was able to enjoy dancing without anyone trying to grind up next to me!
More important than anything that happened at the club, however, was the slightly tipsy conversation we had afterwards, and some serious fact finding that took place on Saturday. The subject of the conversation, primarily, was Adam's readiness to start his transformation! He has been putting things off and dodging my attempts to motivate him for months, but he is now ready to get started, so Saturday we did some research on hormones (much of it on partners_of_tg, THANKS EVERYONE!) and discovered that they are not anywhere near as expensive as we thought. We can EASILY afford to even go with the better ones! Now the only real obstacle is the mandatory therapy, which could be off-the-charts expensive, though I dont know much about it. Anyone else know? And while Im asking questions, does anyone know if you have to have the counseling before the hormones, or is the counseling only required before any surgical change?
Adam has gotten a list of doctors from a friend, and is ready to go in and start asking questions (a big step for someone who fears doctors as much as he does)!
So with all this change happily looming, I had an idea about names and pronouns and the like. While I dont yet feel ready to completely switch my pronoun usage, you will all be happy to hear that I am ready to admit that I NEED to be ready! Does that make sense? Now dont be too hard on me! Its a step... I have decided that it will be easier to do if I am already in the habit of referring to Adam "in the feminine" on this blog, and until it becomes habit at least I can erase my mistakes, then I will probably make a lot less mistakes when I start doing it in the rest of my life! I hope this is not a subconscious delay tactic on my part, but it really does make sense to me. So from this sentence forward (unless I screw up) Adam is Anna, and she is my girlfriend!
I want to write more, but I am still technically at work. Again, thanks everyone for all the comments, you have given me so much to think about!