Is it hating?
There's this girl in my class who is a piece of work. I say that because she's one of those women who is in competition with other women. For what reason, I have no idea. She has this notion that she has to be the cute Black girl. If you look especially cute on a certain day, she'll either be overenthusiastic about complimenting you, or will make snide comments. Like seriously, every time I've had to dress business professional, or have just done my hair, or worn some cute accessories, she has said something to me. One time that sticks out in my head was, she came up to me and said "I dunno why you thought that skirt was cute. You have no ass." And I was literally standing there with my jaw open while she walked away.
I admit that I play into it, I'll overenthusiastically return the compliments, or out of the blue I'll ask her about her makeup. The other day she was overenthusiastic about my eyeshadow (MAC Bamboom paint), so I emailed her the webpage and other details about MAC. Don't ask me why I like playing this game with her.
She's commented on my hair before, saying stuff like "oh your hair is getting so long", or "I could never do that with my hair b/c its too long". Her hair is longer than mine, but its a few different lengths, like she needs to cut it all below her ears so it'll be one length. Its definitely not layers, more like uneven breakage.
For the past few wks I've been trying different curly styles with my hair. Last week I did a 50's curly style (that was really cute) and today they're kinda big loose curls, with the front clipped back. She came up to me today and said "oh your hair is SO cute. You said you're trying to grow it out, but I think you should keep it at that length. It looks really good with your face shape, since your face is shaped... you have a good face shape." Then she said something about the 50's do and said it was really cute. Which I was tryin not to obviously look at her sideways, cos my face is round as hell and I have big cheeks. But for some reason I thought she was being sincere.
Until about an hour later. The comment popped up in my head, and the notion that she might be trying to influence me from growing my hair out? I rarely wear it straight, and when I do she always says how its getting so long. So is it just me or is she being a hater? Or is she genuinely congratulatory? Should I stop going back and forth with her?
I admit that I play into it, I'll overenthusiastically return the compliments, or out of the blue I'll ask her about her makeup. The other day she was overenthusiastic about my eyeshadow (MAC Bamboom paint), so I emailed her the webpage and other details about MAC. Don't ask me why I like playing this game with her.
She's commented on my hair before, saying stuff like "oh your hair is getting so long", or "I could never do that with my hair b/c its too long". Her hair is longer than mine, but its a few different lengths, like she needs to cut it all below her ears so it'll be one length. Its definitely not layers, more like uneven breakage.
For the past few wks I've been trying different curly styles with my hair. Last week I did a 50's curly style (that was really cute) and today they're kinda big loose curls, with the front clipped back. She came up to me today and said "oh your hair is SO cute. You said you're trying to grow it out, but I think you should keep it at that length. It looks really good with your face shape, since your face is shaped... you have a good face shape." Then she said something about the 50's do and said it was really cute. Which I was tryin not to obviously look at her sideways, cos my face is round as hell and I have big cheeks. But for some reason I thought she was being sincere.
Until about an hour later. The comment popped up in my head, and the notion that she might be trying to influence me from growing my hair out? I rarely wear it straight, and when I do she always says how its getting so long. So is it just me or is she being a hater? Or is she genuinely congratulatory? Should I stop going back and forth with her?