RANTS!
So, I came across someone using bromance as a descriptor for a fic featuring a man and a woman some days ago. My initial response was REALLY!? Then felt I needed to write out why I found it problematic, and while I wait for my food to be ready, I might as well share it.
For me, the term ‘bromance’ has connotations - two men, bros (it is a gendered term, with the ever present echo of bros before hos, where brothers are real people and the rest are prostitutes, not their equals). I mainly associate it with films where two (chiefly white) male faces have equal billing, a buddy movie gone large, where the love story (but not like that) is theirs, where the central relationship is theirs and where the women (who aren’t necessarily hos, because these are enlightened bros in the early twenty first century, usually played by comic actors trading on smug) are pushed to the margins, with one dimension (after all, the main reason for their presence is to prove that it’s not a romance in that sense). I am tired of seeing women pushed out there, of watching boy-men find themselves funny for boys and other boy-men to find funny.
I can see why that dynamic, which is based on buddy films, on (traditionally mainly male) partnerships solving crimes/fighting aliens and monsters/against the world appeals. But I don’t think that using bromance when one of those partners is female is apt. Or appropriate. Call it a partnership! Think about what you’re really saying when you’re calling that female character a ‘bro’. Wow, she’s got into the inner circle of bro-dom, she’s so cool, she’s a dude, because you don’t want to be a ‘sis’ (short for sister and I can think of at least one other word). She counts, she’s in the in crowd, the family, the ones who come first, before the ‘hos’. To me, that smacks of misogyny.
By the way, I’m not thinking of the science bros here, I enjoyed Tony and Bruce’s interaction fine in the Avengers (where it was one of many interactions to enjoy), although in fic, I prefer it when Jane gets to play at science too. I appreciate that that may not be what everyone wants to write, although why not, there’s no budget or availability to worry about when writing, just imagination and inclination. And in further qualification, I’m thinking of ensemble gen fic or fic concentrating on other characters/pairings.
Other things that annoy me: that on my new copy of Total Film there’s a picture of Natasha above the title Avengers 2 (that isn’t the annoying part per se) and a drawing of Ant-Man. Why is there a move about Ant-Man, but not a Black Widow standalone?
One day, eh?
And the following adverts annoy me too:
The Galaxy computer re-animation of Audrey Hepburn. A good example of the maxim ‘Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.’
The new Coke Zero adverts. It makes me think ‘FRAUD’ and want to make horsemeat jokes. I didn’t like the old Coke Zero adverts either. Or Lynx ones.
Oh, and I loathe the retooled ‘I just want to make love to you’ Diet Coke ads also. I’ve reached the point where I hope the objectified male goes and finds those annoying women’s car(s) and causes some irritating damage to them.
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For me, the term ‘bromance’ has connotations - two men, bros (it is a gendered term, with the ever present echo of bros before hos, where brothers are real people and the rest are prostitutes, not their equals). I mainly associate it with films where two (chiefly white) male faces have equal billing, a buddy movie gone large, where the love story (but not like that) is theirs, where the central relationship is theirs and where the women (who aren’t necessarily hos, because these are enlightened bros in the early twenty first century, usually played by comic actors trading on smug) are pushed to the margins, with one dimension (after all, the main reason for their presence is to prove that it’s not a romance in that sense). I am tired of seeing women pushed out there, of watching boy-men find themselves funny for boys and other boy-men to find funny.
I can see why that dynamic, which is based on buddy films, on (traditionally mainly male) partnerships solving crimes/fighting aliens and monsters/against the world appeals. But I don’t think that using bromance when one of those partners is female is apt. Or appropriate. Call it a partnership! Think about what you’re really saying when you’re calling that female character a ‘bro’. Wow, she’s got into the inner circle of bro-dom, she’s so cool, she’s a dude, because you don’t want to be a ‘sis’ (short for sister and I can think of at least one other word). She counts, she’s in the in crowd, the family, the ones who come first, before the ‘hos’. To me, that smacks of misogyny.
By the way, I’m not thinking of the science bros here, I enjoyed Tony and Bruce’s interaction fine in the Avengers (where it was one of many interactions to enjoy), although in fic, I prefer it when Jane gets to play at science too. I appreciate that that may not be what everyone wants to write, although why not, there’s no budget or availability to worry about when writing, just imagination and inclination. And in further qualification, I’m thinking of ensemble gen fic or fic concentrating on other characters/pairings.
Other things that annoy me: that on my new copy of Total Film there’s a picture of Natasha above the title Avengers 2 (that isn’t the annoying part per se) and a drawing of Ant-Man. Why is there a move about Ant-Man, but not a Black Widow standalone?
One day, eh?
And the following adverts annoy me too:
The Galaxy computer re-animation of Audrey Hepburn. A good example of the maxim ‘Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.’
The new Coke Zero adverts. It makes me think ‘FRAUD’ and want to make horsemeat jokes. I didn’t like the old Coke Zero adverts either. Or Lynx ones.
Oh, and I loathe the retooled ‘I just want to make love to you’ Diet Coke ads also. I’ve reached the point where I hope the objectified male goes and finds those annoying women’s car(s) and causes some irritating damage to them.
This entry was originally posted at http://www.dreamwidth.org/12345.html.