Observations in large group chats
These are probably similar to statements handed down from the days of mailing lists. Technology changes but people don't.
1) You group is big, lots of members, but not very many people talk. The people who talk only think about the other talkative folks when they say "everybody" or "almost everybody".
a) There are huge numbers of people in the background who don't say anything and barely care about what is said.
b) There is a large number of people in the background who don't say anything but pay attention to everything.
c) If you bring up your personal issues, trauma, or other problems, people are listening, gossiping, and judging you. They may use what you say against you right then and there (the talkative people) or wait for later (the quiet people watching the show), privately amongst themselves.
2) Flow of conversation often branches in the same ways over and over with sudden veering off into unpleasant territory.
a) There are people who seem to have built a hobby based on rejecting suggestions or help on how to deal with a problem they complain about. It's a trap, don't respond.
b) When conversations turn to discussing how certain parts of town suck, or why some states are horrible, awful political-based fights are on the horizon. Let uninformed statements pass, even without acknowledging that they're uninformed.
1) You group is big, lots of members, but not very many people talk. The people who talk only think about the other talkative folks when they say "everybody" or "almost everybody".
a) There are huge numbers of people in the background who don't say anything and barely care about what is said.
b) There is a large number of people in the background who don't say anything but pay attention to everything.
c) If you bring up your personal issues, trauma, or other problems, people are listening, gossiping, and judging you. They may use what you say against you right then and there (the talkative people) or wait for later (the quiet people watching the show), privately amongst themselves.
2) Flow of conversation often branches in the same ways over and over with sudden veering off into unpleasant territory.
a) There are people who seem to have built a hobby based on rejecting suggestions or help on how to deal with a problem they complain about. It's a trap, don't respond.
b) When conversations turn to discussing how certain parts of town suck, or why some states are horrible, awful political-based fights are on the horizon. Let uninformed statements pass, even without acknowledging that they're uninformed.