Reasonable Friends
Where you you draw the line for what friends should do for each other?
If I had a friend tell me "Give me your car, I need a vehicle--you won't? Well I can't count on you" I would know that was a completely unreasonable request and wouldn't feel too badly about saying no, nor would the extra attempts to shame me into agreeing be effective.
But how much is too much?
I'm in a situation where I'm being made to feel like I'm "the only option" for helping someone but it would mean stepping into something permanent. It would be a responsibility that would not go away. It's not adopting someone but it's not too far removed from that.
Seeing it in writing, it's become crystal clear: they're trying to manipulate me. It's a guilt trap, to which I know I'm very vulnerable (just my personality). That's about all I can say about it right now but I feel more clear about it suddenly.
If I had a friend tell me "Give me your car, I need a vehicle--you won't? Well I can't count on you" I would know that was a completely unreasonable request and wouldn't feel too badly about saying no, nor would the extra attempts to shame me into agreeing be effective.
But how much is too much?
I'm in a situation where I'm being made to feel like I'm "the only option" for helping someone but it would mean stepping into something permanent. It would be a responsibility that would not go away. It's not adopting someone but it's not too far removed from that.
Seeing it in writing, it's become crystal clear: they're trying to manipulate me. It's a guilt trap, to which I know I'm very vulnerable (just my personality). That's about all I can say about it right now but I feel more clear about it suddenly.