May 03, 2004 11:28
between mothers day coming up, the daily email i got this morning, and some discoveries i made last week while writing a paper...i just want to share about mothers. first off...no matter how upset your mom makes you...you love her and she loves you! dont take her for granted...i cant stress this enough!
last week while i was looking through one of my files from our filing cabinet, i found various letters i wrote my mom through the years. my way to get feelings out is to write...then i wait a day and decide if i really want that person to know how i feel. looking at these notes, i wish so bad that i hadnt given them to my mom. she was the best mom anyone could have. i'm sure you are thinking your mom is better...but i promise you, mine was the BEST, and still is! you see, for some crazy reason, i let a stupid guy get between her and i. i let him manipulate me into thinking that her not liking him and not approving of him was her not loving me. i was so naive. the reason my mother didnt approve of him was b/c of the jerk he was too me. so even when you hate her advice the most...i would money down that shes right. when it came to my life, my mother was. but aside from all that, these things i wrote her...they had to hurt her. i wrote about how she didnt love me and i was a waste of her energy b/c i was upset, but i'm sure i caused her 1000 times more pain with what i wrote than what i was feeling. can you imagine loving someone unconditionally and them think you dont care whether they are alive or not? sure, i knew my mother loved me, but i was angry, and we say awful things when we are angry. but i want every single one of you to do me a favor. to moms and other loved ones alike...if you get upset, write it down, tuck it away for a week and then reread it. b/c i'm sure by then, you will not want them to read it, you wont want to hurt them with what you wrote. and most of all, take every opportunity you have and show and tell your mom how much she means to you. she brought you into this world and loves you beyond your comprehension!
i love my mom so much, and miss her so much...and though she gave me such a wonderful wonderful life...if i could change anything about life before she died...it would be that i would show and tell her more how much i love her and how important she was to me.
i know there will always be bickering between mothers and children, and in no way, shape or form do i expect that to stop. i just want to make sure you all realize just how lucky you are to still have a chance every morning and every night to just simply look her in her eyes and tell her you love her.
i dont get to have my mother zip up my wedding dress, hold my hand as i'm giving birth, or wipe my tears as my children reach milestones...
its tough, but i know shes in my heart. if your mom is still next to you...please remember this...thats all i ask.
"All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother." "I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life."
-Abraham Lincoln
*PS* dont forget mothers day is sunday...at least make a card!