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hikerpoet December 12 2011, 12:58:21 UTC
Not too much advice but I can commiserate so you're not alone! I think it can just get tough at this point which can be frustrating because your sex drive can tend to be high due to raging hormones and swollen bits.

I haven't had painful contractions, but it is just more difficult overall. Go-to positions just plain...don't work, and I can't even really masturbate because I can't really reach, lol! My husband can usually still get me off manually, with oral (although I'm usually not self-conscious about that, I sort of am with the extra third trimester discharge plus it is not as fun not being able to see/watch him--sorry, more TMI) and sometimes we break out the vibrator--perfectly safe in most pregnancies.
But yeah, the whole thing takes lots of adjustments, which can be particularly frustrating when you know you're going to need/want a break after the baby's arrival!

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sarahk_2009 December 12 2011, 21:04:46 UTC
I know, I'm dreading thinking I won't get to o again properly until roughly 6w after baby comes. D:

(yes it's worth it, but Mama has needs! lol)

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sarahk_2009 December 12 2011, 21:08:11 UTC
btw Thankyou for the support hun :) <3

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mewsicfreak December 18 2011, 01:16:40 UTC
omg i hadn't even thought of that for when I get pregnant in a few months...being so large I won't be able to reach around to even get MYSELF off. Oh noes. That's going to be hell Lol

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thegreylioness December 12 2011, 13:48:57 UTC
I was very sexually frustrated with my first pregnancy, I never had a problem orgasming before pregnancy but during? It was rare and I wanted sex all the time even though it rarely ended well for me, we had the same problems minus the contractions. Lube was only do helpful, finally what I ended up doing was always bringing the vibrator to bed with us just so I could get off. Also used it more alone because I couldn't masturbate succeassfully by hand, and that helped. My husband wasn't too Into sex while we were pregnant so it was a lot less often than I really wanted it.

So in short, my suggestion is to bring a vibrator, maybe a shorter more satisfying session would be helpful and you might not get contractions. No promises though.

Good luck!

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sarahk_2009 December 12 2011, 21:07:52 UTC
I think I'll have to get one of those finger ones.. tmi sry. lol cause my reg one is causing contractions too. :(

and Thanks for the support! :)

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thegreylioness December 12 2011, 21:36:07 UTC
If the regular one is causing contractions, I think the smaller one probably will too but it's always fun to try new products! :D

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sarahk_2009 December 12 2011, 21:46:30 UTC
oooh poop lol.. ;)

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the_laugh December 12 2011, 14:40:28 UTC
Sex isn't TMI in a pregnancy community. :)

I had the same issue towards the end...wonderful, intense orgasms that would turn painful. You just have to decide if it is worth it for you.

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sarahk_2009 December 12 2011, 21:12:31 UTC
gotchya! well then guess I'll have to tough it out! lol ;)

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my_altered_life December 12 2011, 15:21:37 UTC
Yea, Google will tell you that, haha. Also just FYI, but if you're having unprotected sex and he ejaculates in you, it will cause contractions also. I went to the hospital like 6 times thinking I was in labor because of that. Anyways, we had sex like rabbits that first pregnancy and I remember orgasms getting painful right around that time too. I'd try switching positions. From behind was typically more comfortable because there was less pressure in the cervical area. This pregnancy sex has been like...ehhhh and we've never had it this infrequently in our entire marriage.

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willsjoy December 12 2011, 18:30:18 UTC
To my knowledge, semen does not cause contractions. It can help to dialte the cervix, and prgasms cause contractions, but semen alone does not.

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my_altered_life December 12 2011, 20:49:30 UTC
Thats not what I was told by the doctors when I went in with false contractions (thinking they were labor contractions). They specifically said that semen alone can cause contractions. Now, granted, I gave birth 5 years ago, so I don't know if the information they threw at me then is still relevant or if there's new stuff out there, but this is exactly what I was told by the doctors who checked me at the time.

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sarahk_2009 December 12 2011, 21:28:28 UTC
Well at least I'm not the only one concerned about my false labor.. the contractions didn't stop last night and today the BHC were 2 min apart and 6 min long! I was freakin! I went into my appointment and I'm not dilated at all so it's okay.. :)

thank you for the info and support :) <3

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willsjoy December 12 2011, 18:27:53 UTC
Orgasms always cause contractions, even in women who aren't pregnant. Obviously, you don't always feel them, but they do. Nipple stimulation does as well. If you're worried about going into labor early, you probably don't have anything to worry about, unless you have a history of pre-term labor. Even if it causes some contractions and even if they're painful, if it's not time for your baby it will subside.

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sarahk_2009 December 12 2011, 21:30:37 UTC
The BH continued through the night and when I woke up this morning they were about 2 min apart and 6 min long! I was FREAKING! I didn't even have my hospital bag packed.. D:

But I went to my OB appointment and I'm not dilated or anything so she sent me home. She said they should subside. :)

I've never had this happen before, I prbly should've added this is baby #1 for us lol ;)

Thank you for the support and info hun! <3

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hikerpoet December 13 2011, 01:05:07 UTC
Haha...yeah, I meant to clarify this, too. Your uterus contracts during orgasm even not pregnant and it is more subtle (moreso mostly notice the vaginal ones non-pregnant) when there is no fetus in there but when your uterus is huge and doing it it is a bit surreal! A lot of women think it actually feels better, and of course there are stages, and it sounds like does set off continued ones in some women, but what you're feeling during the actual orgasm probably isn't BH yet--just the orgasm, which feels way different when really pregnant.

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