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I had my son 11 weeks ago by c-section. I was given the all clear to resume normal activities by my doctor at 6 weeks pp. From 7 weeks on we've tried to have sex just about once each week (4 times total) and each time I just about died in pain.
The first time we didn't make it past foreplay - his finger felt like sandpaper so I assumed it was from dryness from breastfeeding. I started using Replens and the next week when we tried to have sex again, we used KY as well. As soon as I put it on it felt like someone lit my bits on fire. It was the KY warming stuff, which we've used before without issue. I chalked it up to the warming factor and bought some normal KY. It burned less but was still very uncomfortable and sex still hurt. A LOT. Of the 4 attempts we've only actually done it once, and I was no where near comfortable. The last time it felt like pins and needles were shooting through my entire body, I felt like I couldn't breathe... and he didn't even get it all the way in. I've tried "practicing" by myself, and while it hurts less than actual sex, it's still painful.
Is this... normal? Do I just have to hold back from crying every time we have sex for the next 10 or 20 times we do it? Honestly it was very hard for my SO to finish the one time he did because I wasn't enjoying myself AT ALL. At what point should I go to the doctor and ask them to check if everything is normal?
I had my son 11 weeks ago by c-section. I was given the all clear to resume normal activities by my doctor at 6 weeks pp. From 7 weeks on we've tried to have sex just about once each week (4 times total) and each time I just about died in pain.
The first time we didn't make it past foreplay - his finger felt like sandpaper so I assumed it was from dryness from breastfeeding. I started using Replens and the next week when we tried to have sex again, we used KY as well. As soon as I put it on it felt like someone lit my bits on fire. It was the KY warming stuff, which we've used before without issue. I chalked it up to the warming factor and bought some normal KY. It burned less but was still very uncomfortable and sex still hurt. A LOT. Of the 4 attempts we've only actually done it once, and I was no where near comfortable. The last time it felt like pins and needles were shooting through my entire body, I felt like I couldn't breathe... and he didn't even get it all the way in. I've tried "practicing" by myself, and while it hurts less than actual sex, it's still painful.
Is this... normal? Do I just have to hold back from crying every time we have sex for the next 10 or 20 times we do it? Honestly it was very hard for my SO to finish the one time he did because I wasn't enjoying myself AT ALL. At what point should I go to the doctor and ask them to check if everything is normal?