I was not suggesting that she go out of her way to disrespect someone. I wished her the best of luck in finding a new provider but pointed out that they can't "force" a woman into a birth situation that she doesn't want. Some women don't even consider the fact that they can refuse or simply not go in if a doctor insists on scheduling an induction or cesarean. And the fact of the matter is that they can. I said barring the ability to find someone more in alignment with her wishes, she simply doesn't have to go in and consent before labor if she doesn't want to. That, imo, is knowing your options and being proactive.
Sorry if we must agree to disagree here, but I've known too many women who have been in that exact situation for you to change my mind about feeling it's perfectly acceptable when one is being pressured and forced to simply ignore it and don't consent. Obviously she should find a better provider, but in some areas, a doc who says "We'll try to work with you if we possibly can" may actually be the best one around for the job. She still doesn't have to cave to pressure if she doesn't feel it's right.
I love that my comment that she should not consent to scheduling if she's going to cancel it is being interpreted to mean that I think she should allow herself to be bullied.
Sorry if we must agree to disagree here, but I've known too many women who have been in that exact situation for you to change my mind about feeling it's perfectly acceptable when one is being pressured and forced to simply ignore it and don't consent. Obviously she should find a better provider, but in some areas, a doc who says "We'll try to work with you if we possibly can" may actually be the best one around for the job. She still doesn't have to cave to pressure if she doesn't feel it's right.
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