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[lookabitcloser]

so i was going through my baby shower guest list today with my best friend to see if we were missing anybody. she asked, "oh are you inviting _____?" (a mutual aquaintance/used to be friend in high school) i said no and when she asked why i didnt really have an answer. but it occured to me later that the reason i didnt want her there is that she is

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[relevancedenied]

i think i would probably feel the same if it wasn't someone close to me. it might not be the nicest thing in the world, but if you're not really friends in the first place then it's not like you have an obligation to invite her. it's your shower!

[bkm5191]

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be the center of attention at your party :) Enjoy it 'cause once bubs arrives no one cares :)

If it isn't a close family member or friend it doesn't seem like a big deal.

I will say that I feel this way because at my wedding a friend of my husbands took that as her big moment to announce she was pregnant. Thanks for that ducks. Fortunately (for me) she was sitting away at a table with her uni friends and so I got my big day!

[sueg]

Yeah, that sounds crazy to me. But it also doesn't sound like you are very close to her.

Just a thought, after you have your baby, if not many of your friends are parents you may find yourself wishing for more mommy friends.

[mangofandango]

Yeah, to me, that sounds crazy. Right now, you're being self-centered and in the future, you might wish you had any mom friends you can get. If it's any reassurance, the shower is for you, so she's not going to steal your crown or anything.

On the other hand, it also sounds like the two of you aren't really friends now, so maybe nothing will be lost if you don't invite her, either.

[childlike_faith]

I agree with this.

[kelj99]

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[i_ofthemourning]

I think it depends on how close you guys are...if you talk to her regularly and keep in touch quite often, then it seems a little silly not to invite her just because shes pregnant too...the shower is all about you and her being there isnt going to change that in anyones mind. Shes going to understand better than most of your single friends what you are going through and tbh that can be a real lifesaver at times.

However if you guys barely catch up and talk once in a blue moon, i doubt that its going to matter if shes invited or not... I guess it really depends on where and how u want to take the friendship :)