The first 2 weeks were the MOST stressful for me. Caring for a little one is a huge life adjustment & doing more than caring for yourself & your baby shouldn't be expected of you. Those 2 things trump dishes, laundry, vacuuming or anything else chorewise. You need time to learn your baby, learn her patterns & scrambling to do housework in between is going to stress you out & make you tired, the perfect formula for feeling depressed!
My boyfriend also is the sole provider, and while he knew caring for a baby wasn't easy he truly had NO idea how overwhelming it can be until I left him home alone while I went out for a movie & cocktails with friends. Since that night he has had a NEW appreciation & has admitted it feels easier & less stressful to work than care for the critter alone.
To be honest, I was SO worried about leaving him alone with Finn.. I worried the entire end of the movie if Finn was screaming crying, if he was hungry, was Daddy overwhelmed?? I came home to Daddy slow dancing with a swaddled baby, listening to old blues, tears in his eyes- he said it was the most overwhelming, but most amazing night of his life.
I think it's good to see things from other people perspectives, especially the ones you love.
I agree with runlotusrun. Both will survive the time together and it probably will be a significant bonding time for them. And if he's overwhelmed and you've got a nudie baby...I'm sure the baby'll be fine and the father will have a bit more respect for your situation and will be a bit more supportive now that he knows what you are going through.
My boyfriend also is the sole provider, and while he knew caring for a baby wasn't easy he truly had NO idea how overwhelming it can be until I left him home alone while I went out for a movie & cocktails with friends. Since that night he has had a NEW appreciation & has admitted it feels easier & less stressful to work than care for the critter alone.
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I think it's good to see things from other people perspectives, especially the ones you love.
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