Rant and plea for support.
OK so I figure this is where to come if I need this type of support. I am planning to go as natural as possible, meaning; no induction, no episiotomy and especially no pain meds. I have been very open with my family about my plans and have been met with a mixture of "are you crazy" and "you'll never make it" my baby shower was today and it was apparently the last straw because the subject came up that I am also planning to avoid the routine pelvic exams unless a medical reason comes up to warrant one. I spent most of the day having to argue these points to everyone. My mother is pushing for the pelvic exams, my grandmother the epidural and my MIL is trying to convince me to schedule an induction. Normally I could deal with these fine, but to have it all thrown at me at once made me just a little bit crazy.
My mom is trying to be supportive and the argument finally ended with her telling me that she guessed that is something that is a personal preference and that it is my body and my baby so it is my choice, she apologized to me and said to each her own and that the closer to my due date we get the more stressed she feels. She is also worried about the pain because she had 3 out of 4 of her kids with no drugs and she knows how it will be for me and it worries her. This is my grandmothers main concern also, she believes that while women have had children for thousands of years with no drugs why suffer if you don't have to.
My MIL I don't get at all, she works at my OB/GYN and is pushing me to induce before my due date because my doctor is scheduled to be on vacation when I am due so I should try and make sure to deliver when he is around. WTF? Last I checked I wasn't supposed to schedule my labor around his trip to who knows where. This is also the woman who called FOUR days in a row asking what time the shower was and what I sill needed and what to bring to the shower. Every day she called I said the same thing nearly word for word. "Bringing ice would be great, the shower starts at 11 and (insert items on list here) is all I have yet to buy." She also told us not to worry about making too much food because she was bringing a spinach dip and swedish meatballs. We said thank you and planned the food around what we were expecting.
When she shows up today an hour and a half late she brought no ice, no dip, no meatballs and forgot the gifts her oldest daughter sent for us (she lives 2 hrs away and was unable to come due to medical reasons) And even though I am grateful for any gift given none of what she brought was anything I told her from the list. This would have not bothered me in the least if she hadn't been calling incessantly for 4 days (sometimes 2 or 3 times a day) asking what I still needed.
On the upside I got a lot of really thoughtful gifts and saw family and friends I haven't seen in awhile. The day had its ups and downs but mostly it was just tiring.
My mom is trying to be supportive and the argument finally ended with her telling me that she guessed that is something that is a personal preference and that it is my body and my baby so it is my choice, she apologized to me and said to each her own and that the closer to my due date we get the more stressed she feels. She is also worried about the pain because she had 3 out of 4 of her kids with no drugs and she knows how it will be for me and it worries her. This is my grandmothers main concern also, she believes that while women have had children for thousands of years with no drugs why suffer if you don't have to.
My MIL I don't get at all, she works at my OB/GYN and is pushing me to induce before my due date because my doctor is scheduled to be on vacation when I am due so I should try and make sure to deliver when he is around. WTF? Last I checked I wasn't supposed to schedule my labor around his trip to who knows where. This is also the woman who called FOUR days in a row asking what time the shower was and what I sill needed and what to bring to the shower. Every day she called I said the same thing nearly word for word. "Bringing ice would be great, the shower starts at 11 and (insert items on list here) is all I have yet to buy." She also told us not to worry about making too much food because she was bringing a spinach dip and swedish meatballs. We said thank you and planned the food around what we were expecting.
When she shows up today an hour and a half late she brought no ice, no dip, no meatballs and forgot the gifts her oldest daughter sent for us (she lives 2 hrs away and was unable to come due to medical reasons) And even though I am grateful for any gift given none of what she brought was anything I told her from the list. This would have not bothered me in the least if she hadn't been calling incessantly for 4 days (sometimes 2 or 3 times a day) asking what I still needed.
On the upside I got a lot of really thoughtful gifts and saw family and friends I haven't seen in awhile. The day had its ups and downs but mostly it was just tiring.