Was it PLANNED?

Nov 07, 2007 21:06

I wonder what posesses people to, when you tell them you're pregnant, ask "was this planned ( Read more... )

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anghella November 8 2007, 05:16:30 UTC
Im a waitress and my customers seem to think they can ask anything they want. Such as:

Do you know who the father is? (no...because im a waitress i automatically sleep around..)

Are you married? Are you getting married?

Do you go to church? You better start reading the bible... (for some reason i need to become religious because i am bringing a child into this world??)

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squisheroo November 8 2007, 05:51:21 UTC
I'm a waitress as well. Customers talk down to me because I don't have a great job, I'm young, they assume I am uneducated, and they assume I am unmarried and got pregnant by a flavour-of-the-week.

I am SO sick of having to go through my speech of "My HUSBAND is a NURSE and we are very EXCITED about our child. I'm going to be very busy between being a mother, wife, and COLLEGE STUDENT."

Ugh. I hate their assumptions, and I hate having to make sure all of my "bases" are covered when I talk to them.

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babyisinme November 8 2007, 06:08:45 UTC
Oh definitely. I worked in food service for about 7 years, during which time I was in college educating myself. People thought I couldn't add and must have been some sort of idiot which explained my food service job, in their heads that is.
HOWEVER.
Since food service I have sold cell phones and mortgages, and neither one of the two are NEARLY as hard and demanding as food service was! When I get applications from people at work now (I am currently doing mortgages) and I ask them what they do at their job food service people are always able to give you a LIST. They say "oh well I'm a waitress but I also manage, clean, do cash handling..." I almost always say "oh, so you're superwoman, huh?"

I have to give a similar speech. "yeah my husband and I moved over here so he could go to school. I work here full-time and go to school full-time so it's a decent challenge but I've managed to uphold my 3.7 pretty well." But at least people don't treat me NEARLY as bad as they did when I worked food service!

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teamojackita November 8 2007, 15:03:47 UTC
You pretty much took the words out of my mouth. I'm a full time student and not working, and I look VERY young. As soon as people ask this question I also feel as though I have to include the fact that my HUSBAND is in active duty MILITARY, I am a graduating senior, I am looking into LAW SCHOOL...and ALL of this shit that is basically none of their business. I don't know why I feel I have to justify bringing my little girl into the world. But now I feel better :)

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babyisinme November 8 2007, 06:01:47 UTC
OMG! I'd tell them I have a website and an 800 number set up for tips leading to the father.
Do you ever wanna say "nope, no clue."??

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majorfred November 8 2007, 06:09:10 UTC
Maybe the bible has a good prenatal chapter? ;P

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majorfred November 8 2007, 06:50:35 UTC
Haha funny when you think about it...Pregnancy and childbirth have always made me feel kind of gifted as a woman, not punished! (I'm not so sure Adam didn't talk her into picking that fruit in the first place!)

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babyisinme November 8 2007, 06:55:41 UTC
yeah, I'm with my little baby all the time and my husband isn't! sure we get the sicknesses and all but the benefits way outweigh the pain, I love talking to my little baby when I'm driving

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