Gender and Power Issues with Swallowing

[soybean589]

Hi! I just recently joined this community because I enjoy intellectual discussion on pornography/sex/sexual fantasy and etc. I feel like it would be a good place to pose my mental ramblings to whoever is out there reading

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[chaoskitty]

I don't believe in "if I like it and you enjoy doing it to me that means you better enjoy having it done to you"
everyone has different tastes and if a girl like swallowing does not mean that it is unfair if her guy does not like swallowing or tasting his own ejaculate. It does not mean that she is a "receptacle" for ejaculate.
Most women I know enjoy swallowing in fact I don't think I could find one in my circle of friends/acquaintances that doesn't (at least amongst the hetro ones)
doe this make them a cum bucket to do something they like just because there guy doesn't like it also?
I hardly see the logic in that.

now if they girl thought it was yuky and the guy expected her to do it anyway then that is a problem.

on to your other question I know many men that have no problem what ever with tasting their own ejaculate or kissing a girl after she swallows. I know many guys that enjoy their own cum and even get off on it.

[soybean589]

But what if the guy thinks it's gross, but he lets the girl do it? It's a little too convenient for him that the girl actually likes to do it.

[freebirdpat]

I think with some men. They may be inclined to think if they taste their own cum, and like it, it makes them gay. Or doing that type of thing may make them gay. I think this is where the "yuck" factor may come in.

[chaoskitty]

why is it too convenient? He likes her doing it, she likes to do it, everyone wins...I really don't see the problem here. I think oranges are gross but I let my boyfriend eat them. I do not consider him an orange receptacle.

if you want to keep the analogy sexual... I think eating pussy is gross. I have tryed, I hate the taste of it, not for me. My boyfriend LOVES it, he gets pleasure from it. Should I deny him the pleasure of doing it just because I myself don't like to do it? Does it degrade him to have him go down on me because I wouldn't want to scoop up a handful of my own juices and lick away?

[malathion]

Winner

[soybean589]

"I think eating pussy is gross. I have tryed, I hate the taste of it, not for me."

But you tried it. Why can't men try it? Are they above that?

[chaoskitty]

I don't know a guy that hasn't tried it, hasn't masturbated and gotten a little curious. Admittedly I haven't polled every guy I know but anyone I have ever asked to has eventually admitted to at least trying it once on their own in privacy.
have you tried your own juices?

[soybean589]

I can't tell if you're asking me or if you're posing a rhetorical question...

But my answer is yes. I was mostly expressing frustration with men who seem against it and refuse to try it once. I would never force someone to do it, but it seems like a small thing to do to prove one is an equal opportunity taster. =P

[chaoskitty]

I can kind of see were your getting at but again I think it is very subjective. Even if you have never tried something. I will bring it back to the food ananolgy again. I will not eat tripe, I will not put it in my mouth I will not try it. I find the entire concept of it gross. I however pass no value judgment or think any less of anyone else that wants to eat tripe or gets enjoyment out of it. I do not find it degrading for them to get pleasure from the tripe and I do not think that they are gross because they do something I never would.

does that make sense?

[soybean589]

Yes, it is very subjective.

But it is not a true food analogy since no one in their right mind can subject you to eating tripe. Although, I don't mind tripe.

[mamasboo]

Well put. I understand both sides of this so no points off for what the OP was saying, but you did put this side in a very understandable way.